Sure gets lonesome here.

[Bob Wright]

I've been nursing a virus all week, haven't gotten out other than to get some medications.

At suppertime last night I boiled an ear of corn, fixed me a dish of green beans, and warmed up a sliced ham steak. As I sat down to my table, I glanced over to where Nita used to sit. In my mind, I could hear her say "Supper's ready!." Her chair sits there empty, no place setting where hers used to be. No "Want some more coffee?" Just silence as I eat my supper. I miss her terribly.

As I offer the blessing for my food, I thank God for food and ask His blessing as I eat. And, very often, I mention this forum and thank Him for men like y'all and your posts that brighten my evening. Your company, comments and photos, sure are a help to this one.

Thank y'all for being here.

Bob Wright

 

[Jeepnik]

Hang in there, Bob. There are so many platitudes I could say. Just know we like hearing from you on a regular basis.

By the way, has anyone mentioned you should write your life’s story down? Or record it. So much of our history has been lost, we need to preserve it for the future.

 

[Danjet500]

And we thank God for you, Bob, and all your thoughtful posts. And also the photos of your beautiful revolvers. Stay strong my friend.

 

[turd]

Bob, know that you have blessed this forum in so many ways it is difficult to find words to express. I don't know personally what you are facing, but my father spent 4 years alone after the death of my mother and he really struggled. My sister and I both lived nearby and we did what we could to keep him looking forward to things, but it isn't the same. My parents had been married for 69 years when mom died. No one can take their place.

I believe God has work for you yet, and I for one appreciate the work that you are doing here for Him. May He bless you and keep you forever and ever.

 

[arfmel]

I know something of your loneliness, having lost my wife of 32 years in November 2022. I treasure the memories of her.

 

[gnappi]

Bob, not many things can choke me up but your post did. I pray it gets better for you with time.

 

[MaxMan]

Here for you. I hope you have a good support system with family and church.

 

[contender]

Many warm & thoughtful comments above.

Obviously,, many of us care Bob.

The loss of a life-long partner leaves a huge hole in our daily lives. Just remember,, God knows what's best, and has His plan for how we live..

But us mere humans just need to take comfort in the knowledge of the love & friendships we have here. And Bob,, you do have many people here who are your friends.

 

[g5m]

Best wishes, Bob.

 

[2Late45]

I was blessed for 49 years, 10 months and 27 days. I have sons and grand daughters that fill my life with joy, but I also eat alone. Take comfort and strength in your faith that we will meet them again my friend...

 

[SamV]

Bob, I can’t tell you how much I enjoy your many posts here over the years. I have never met you in person, but I feel like you take the time to chat with us so frequently. My wife, who has never really read the forum, knows who you are, about your wife, and about the many things you have shared. She has seen some of your photos and said that I could have a hat like yours if I could carry it off like you. She has asked about you and a few other of the members here. She thinks of them as my friends, and I suppose we all are in a way. We frequently pray for each other. That must mean something.
I keep telling myself that one day, I am just going to drive down to Memphis and take you to lunch. I make 2 or 3 round trips from Saint Louis to Birmingham a year and it wouldn’t be out of the way.
God has blessed you and continues to do so. Even in your loneliness, He is there with you.

 

[Randyzzz]

Bob, I can’t imagine being in your position. One of my friends recently lost his wife of 40+ years. He is lost…if it wasn’t for his kids and the church family I don’t know how he could bear it.

My heart goes out to you- and I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[Acorn]

A very touching post.
I'm sorry for what you're experiencing.

 

[Shotgungibbs]

Bob, we've never met, but I feel like I know you. I enjoy your posts/company, and look forward to many more from you. As long as Nita is in your heart, she'll always be there with you. We're all here with you, and for you. You are an inspiration to us all! Nothing but the best to you Sir!

 

[wproct]

Thanks for sharing this Bob. My wife is still with me, will be 60 years this coming August 28th. When one of us depart it's gonna be rough on the other one. We don't go much of anywhere but what we are together.

 

[Bob Wright]

Thank you all for your comments. I am truly blessed.

Bob Wright

 

[kmoore]

Bob, I hear and understand you. My wife of 27 years has been gone 1 year and 3 days ago. It seems like last week. My days being happy and joyful are far and few.
This may help, it did with me. On the dinner table I placed a 5x7 lovely photo of my wife. I do speak to her almost every day. A friend said I should not have her photo on the table as it will be harder on me emotionally to move on. I feel better about it being there.
Bob, you are a wise man and I enjoy reading your posts. As reading this thread others agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and wisdom.

 

[blume357]

Bob, like the others above, I have great respect for you and also realize it has to be tough to be alone like that. I really can't imagine it. I like I think many others here wish we could do more for you. Is there anyway you could make the long treck over to Western N.C. in the Fall? I'm sure Contender and the others would welcome you with open arms. Hang in there and I'm sure there are those here that are praying for you. I know you have prayed for some of us in the past.

 

[Armybrat]

Kmoore, That is a good way to help keep your loved one alive in your heart.
I have my late grandsons picture on the library table next to my recliner so I can say good morning and good night every day.
It helps, even after the two years he's been gone.

Bob, you know you will be back with Nita one of these days, so take comfort in that.
In the meantime your friends here will be blessed to enjoy your gentlemanly camaraderie and extensive knowledge that you so generously share.
You are not alone.

 

[jyo]

Bob as I grow older, my friends and the wives and husbands are leaving this mortal state---it hurts me greatly seeing the hurt the survivors go thru---I've been with my wife for 44 years now and I know things will be very tough for her when I leave and I worry about it...
Try to remember the good times and smile---she would want you to...

 

[callshot]

Time is and will be your friend. I feel for you and hope for the best for you. As you mentioned, this forum was my only outlet to the world and was my lifesaver. You don’t need to get over it, but you will get used to it with time. Best wishes. Steve aka Callshot

 

[Johnnu2]

Well, you brought a tear or two to my eye Bob Wright...........
J.

 

[jav]

Never never forgot the good times you had with her that always will put a smile on your face take care sir

 

[burner]

We all assume we are going to be the ones to check out first, but 10 years ago my wife of 45 years past on. Talk about being lonely... I sure do miss her.. Not only my wife but hunting buddies, fishing buddies, and sailing buddies. The herd is thinning. No friends to play with any longer. And 3 years ago I died for 30 minutes. I guess they took a look at me and sent me back.. So often wonder?? Am I now 3 or 83??

 

[AJGUNNER]

Thank you for sharing the things you do. I don't always comment on what you share, but I do always read them.

 

[rugnelli]

Mr. Wright,
Thank You for your contributions to this forum.
Be well, Sir.
rugnelli

 

[roylt]

Hi Bob,
My folks were together for 58 years. Mom went first and it was a big shock. Dad had heart issues etc.
I can't say I understand exactly but can imagine a little as my kids get older and want less to do with their old dad. Empty nest sounds good on paper but really it is a lot of hours of your day to fill.
My uncle (dad's brother) lost his wife to cancer a long time ago. He was always involved with his church and seemed after it kept him going. You may have heard the expression "work wife", seems he friended a woman at church and helped her and her husband do things and run arrands etc. (To be clear not a romantic thing but still a type of love there / Friendship.)
Sorta rambling and this may sound weird, don't read this wrong but I hope I can have a love like my folks, my uncle, and you some day.

This forum has gotten me through tough times. Lots of good people here. Feel free to vent anytime. Even a small note to say hi is sometimes all it takes.

I wish you the best. Take care, Roy

 

[MaxMan]

Bob our pastor's wife went home very suddenly (2 weeks) early 60s ran 1/2 marathons. He has expressed his struggles many times before the congregation. You are still in my prayers for grace and comfort.