A question regarding burial.
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Traditional in what culture? I’ve never heard of anything like that, and I’ve been at a LOT of funerals over the past 15 years or so. Family members in the same cemetery plot are usually buried side by side based on my informal observation.
It strikes me as unfortunate that such an issue even comes up, considering the stress and grief that results from the death of a family member.
It strikes me as unfortunate that such an issue even comes up, considering the stress and grief that results from the death of a family member.
I've never heard of that either.
Maybe if the deceased son is a child he'd get buried with his parents. I'd think if he were a grown man and especially if married, he'd not be right next to his parents.
Maybe if the deceased son is a child he'd get buried with his parents. I'd think if he were a grown man and especially if married, he'd not be right next to his parents.
bogus bill
Hunter
My grandpa was married twice. His first wife died was named Julia. He had married a older brothers widow. Then he married my grandmother who`s name was also Julia. Both Julia`s are on each side of him.
I have a cousin who married a twin. His wife got sick and her twin sister moved in to take care of her. When his wife died he married the twin sister. That might be interesting when they die.
I have a cousin who married a twin. His wife got sick and her twin sister moved in to take care of her. When his wife died he married the twin sister. That might be interesting when they die.
loaded round
Hunter
Run it by your minister, priest, or rabbi.
And get back to us with an answer please.loaded round said:
Don Lovel
Hunter
I attended a funeral at a cemetery in metro KC ran by the LDS that they had whole families stacked in the same hole. Reinforces my resolve to be cremated and ashes taken to my favorite hunting and fishing spots
my take on that is a question THEN of who goes first, and the survivors have to chose, same for "family plots" how many 'plots' ,how many actual survivors and then again who goes first, leaving it up the rest to decide,feel bad for the last one left, NO OPTIONS, possibly "left out".......... 8) :roll: :wink:
you make sure YOU put it in down, in writing, YOUR "last wishes", don't you just love leaving it up to lawyers , or THE STATE... :shock:
you make sure YOU put it in down, in writing, YOUR "last wishes", don't you just love leaving it up to lawyers , or THE STATE... :shock:
Each year, my Legion Post maintains Veterans graves in our area. Many of the cemeteries are Pioneer-era. And there are a lot of family plots in these old cemeteries. These families were large, and very extended. So...Not everybody is gonna get their pick of location, as much as their grave is dictated in the order of their demise.
My dad is a geologist. When I was in high school, he found a piece of granite that was perfect for my parents' tombstone. Kind of funny, they carted that rock around for years and years, it's now back in Iowa, where supposedly they want to be buried, but now they say cremated. I guess it's all fun and games until they kick the bucket...or buy the farm.
Question: Do other families "joke" around about their demise? My parents seem to get a kick about joking around about it.
My wife's whole family is in Bulgaria. They don't have such traditions. The man and wife are buried next to each other. Then their kids would be married and buried next to each other, themselves seperately. They don't have cremation, or at least it isn't so popular yet. Burials are taken seriously though. After a person dies, 40 days later they post a flyer on their front doorstep, announcing the 40th day since the person died. Then they do it again after 1 year. Then every year after. At least that used to be the tradition. It's losing favor these days.
But the cemetery's are really interesting. I'll look for some pictures tomorrow. But they remind me of cemetery's in Louisiana.
Question: Do other families "joke" around about their demise? My parents seem to get a kick about joking around about it.
My wife's whole family is in Bulgaria. They don't have such traditions. The man and wife are buried next to each other. Then their kids would be married and buried next to each other, themselves seperately. They don't have cremation, or at least it isn't so popular yet. Burials are taken seriously though. After a person dies, 40 days later they post a flyer on their front doorstep, announcing the 40th day since the person died. Then they do it again after 1 year. Then every year after. At least that used to be the tradition. It's losing favor these days.
But the cemetery's are really interesting. I'll look for some pictures tomorrow. But they remind me of cemetery's in Louisiana.
Bayouhunter
Single-Sixer
I’ve never heard of it as traditional or being a custom but in 1970 when my father died he said he wanted to be buried at his Father’s feet. He rests there today I was 10 yrs old and do remember him stating that to my mother. He was the oldest son but not the oldest sibling.
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JFB
Hunter
rimmer1 said:
When they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but they are like the angels in heaven (Mk 12:5).
something to do with that "till death do we part"
Not knowing for sure where my grown kids will be living decades into the future, I decided (and my wife agreed to the same) that when I pass I will be cremated and then will be interred (stored?) at Arlington National Cemetery (as a retired Army officer I am eligible, as is my wife). None of my kids or other relatives will be near us, but that is OK. It will give the kids and possibly grandkids a nice destination to visit if they ever decide they want to see where Grandpa ended up. Its also a lot less expensive that traditional burials, and in opinion, there is almost nothing worse that pouring a ton of money into a hole in the ground, money that could be helpful to the survivors. Well, maybe there is something that is even more wasteful: a fancy wedding celebration.
Vito: I completely agree with you. My wedding 20 some years ago might have been $1000 total. It's so wasteful to spend 50 plus thousand on a wedding. That money could be used to help buy a house. It's especially wasteful when the marriage doesn't even last 3 years! And fancy caskets are such a joke. I'm sorry to say that, but yeah, "pouring a ton of money into a hole in the ground," is exactly right.
vito said:
We've visited Arlington the last few years when we were in Washington. For someone who wanted to be buried, and earned the honor, I can't
imagine a better spot.
For myself it's cremation and a dumpster, I'll be dead and won't care.
Dave
Mokwaw
Bearcat
A friend and his wife in IL. lost their son last year, he was in his early 30's He was cremated and as for his wishes his urn was buried on top of his Grandfather.
My wife and I have decided we will be cremated. I originally wanted my ashes spread over my Grandfather's farm land in IL. where I was born, which is no longer in the family. We talked to a funeral person about this. She said the law prohibits it, because it is considered trespassing. My wife wants her ashes spread out or buried in the sands at Myrtle Beach, S.C. her favorite vacation spot. As for me I don't care where my ashes go. My soul and my wife's will both be with GOD the Father.
My wife and I have decided we will be cremated. I originally wanted my ashes spread over my Grandfather's farm land in IL. where I was born, which is no longer in the family. We talked to a funeral person about this. She said the law prohibits it, because it is considered trespassing. My wife wants her ashes spread out or buried in the sands at Myrtle Beach, S.C. her favorite vacation spot. As for me I don't care where my ashes go. My soul and my wife's will both be with GOD the Father.
bogus bill
Hunter
Years ago I had a live-in house keeper from England with no family. She was a divorcee and had no kids. (Her parents were killed during the war). She died of cancer home with me. She was cremated and I spread the ashs on a mountain top that she liked and where I used to deer hunt. I spread the ashs, was just ending the Lords prayer and hear a shot that sounded like it was like 50 yards away. I stepped out of the woods, never could see a person nor a car in the area!
Martines mother and brother were killed during the bombing of England near the Vickers factory in Newcastle England. Her father was killed flying a spitfire. I was a Lockheed guard in the 1980`s when we built the L-1011.
We used Rolls Royce engines on it. I knew the Rolls Royce factory rep. By chance we got to talking about Martine and it really shook him up. He had also been a RAF pilot and said he knew the exact event. He was part of it! He said one lone bomber got through them and a bomb fell short just short of the Vickers plant gate where Martine`s mother and brother lived and he knew several people were killed there! It`s a small world!
Martines mother and brother were killed during the bombing of England near the Vickers factory in Newcastle England. Her father was killed flying a spitfire. I was a Lockheed guard in the 1980`s when we built the L-1011.
We used Rolls Royce engines on it. I knew the Rolls Royce factory rep. By chance we got to talking about Martine and it really shook him up. He had also been a RAF pilot and said he knew the exact event. He was part of it! He said one lone bomber got through them and a bomb fell short just short of the Vickers plant gate where Martine`s mother and brother lived and he knew several people were killed there! It`s a small world!
Colonialgirl
Hawkeye
Mokwaw said:
I lost my spouse Ashley Jan 2019 and had him cremated; I shared his ashes with my daughter in law and still have the urn with Ashley's ashes here at home in an honored spot. Several years ago we met Ashley's sister and her husband at Myrtle Beach and buried their Mom's ashes at the bottom of the furthermost pier piling we could reach at low tide as she wanted her ashes scattered there OR at the beach in Hawaii.
Ruger Packer
Buckeye
My wife and I have decided that when we're both done that our daughter will put both our ashes in the same urn and in turn place the urn in a 6" diameter by 4 foot long pipe buried in the ground between my parents and grandparents.
