Thanksgiving day at the wives brothers house. Her brother tells me Sat he is going to an auction there will be 30 guns.I mention it to the wife, she says have a good time. All is fine till I come home with gun, have not heard the end of it. Good thing she did not see the 2nd one going to basement. What did she think I was going to buy nick knacks?
Women???????
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Have you asked her why she's upset?
Generally,,, it's when they think any money spent like that can be better spent elsewhere.
Generally,,, it's when they think any money spent like that can be better spent elsewhere.
vortecMax said:
Ask her why she said "Have a good time" then is upset?
She didn't expect you to actually buy something?
Money is tight & looking was OK but not buying?
My wife of 32+ yrs. could not careless what I buy, when, how many or at what price etc.. - Has no concern at all as long as she has her books ...........
mohavesam
Hawkeye
Hint: She said "have a good time" in front of others.
If she had said: "spend our money wisely dear" - I think you'd have mentioned it!
You don't really know much about your spouse now do you? :roll: :roll:
I love the inference that you think she doesn't know about the second gun!!
If she had said: "spend our money wisely dear" - I think you'd have mentioned it!
You don't really know much about your spouse now do you? :roll: :roll:
I love the inference that you think she doesn't know about the second gun!!
Viking Queen
Blackhawk
I don't get that either, and I am a woman.
Kind of takes all the fun out of getting a new gun....or two. :wink:
Hope she lets it go soon.
Viking Queen
Kind of takes all the fun out of getting a new gun....or two. :wink:
Hope she lets it go soon.
Viking Queen
I buy about 1 gun a year on average, cough, cough. My wife surely would have a different use for the money. But she feels it is a cheap indulgence for her husband. As she tells my mother-in-law, "He doesn't smoke, drink, or buy mid-life crises cars." I also remind her that it is much cheaper than a mistress. So I just get an eye roll and a request to see the latest purchase.
Dittotinman said:
gramps
Mine just knows guns mate in the safe if the door is closed.
My 9mm and 45ACP Combat Commanders just had a .38 Super baby the day before Thanksgiving.
My 9mm and 45ACP Combat Commanders just had a .38 Super baby the day before Thanksgiving.
"Generally,,, it's when they think any money spent like that can be better spent elsewhere."
And that somewhere is herself(just my opinion).
I make 70-75% of the household income and spend money when/where I choose. I don't buy "the Grouch Attack" ANYTHING since the house, vehicle, and insurance I provide is more than she deserves(again, just my opinion). In return, she makes my life a living hell(which she apparently feels I deserve).
Mistakes of youth become the misery of old age.
And that somewhere is herself(just my opinion).
I make 70-75% of the household income and spend money when/where I choose. I don't buy "the Grouch Attack" ANYTHING since the house, vehicle, and insurance I provide is more than she deserves(again, just my opinion). In return, she makes my life a living hell(which she apparently feels I deserve).
Mistakes of youth become the misery of old age.
I could never "get into a woman's head" and there is NO instruction manual. I have never had the problem you described. In this house Linda is a potter and I am a gun collector. We each know the others addiction and have learned to live with it.
Sometimes my wife acts annoyed when I buy a gun or gun stuff but she doesn't really fuss about it. I think it is just because she thinks I have enough for any purpose I am likely to encounter. I am usually in the one gun a year club. My wife is smart enough to know that guns are a lot cheaper than some other hobbies I could be interested in & that I take care of her & the kids first. I don't go spend money on guns if necessities aren't taken care of first. So she doesn't mess with me too much.
Oh I think you guys are being too hard on the OP. If he is saying he hasn't heard the last of it about buying a gun, is his wife just giving him a hard time, in a good natured way? Perhaps you need to take her shooting with your new purchase and she might think differently about it.
I don't know him or his wife or their financial situation, but unless they are really living on the edge I doubt he blew the rent or food money on a 30-30.
But Mobuck, ummm, I'm not wise enough to give advice, but, well just don't let your wife read this forum.... :D
I don't know him or his wife or their financial situation, but unless they are really living on the edge I doubt he blew the rent or food money on a 30-30.
But Mobuck, ummm, I'm not wise enough to give advice, but, well just don't let your wife read this forum.... :D
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Why is it they think we are their childre andmust make our decisions for us?
Because men let them!
Can ya tell I'm single?
Because men let them!
Can ya tell I'm single?
Ha ha,,, I heard something to to opposite... "Men get married to have an adult in the house."
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I know full well I am a blessed man. She is the love of my life, came from further back in the sticks than I did, and that was pretty far back. This is the woman who, when in my mid-thirtys I was unhappy in a lucrative job, said, "If you are unhappy, quit. I have lived in shacks growing up, I can do it again, and I'll go anywhere you want me to."
She stood at my shoulder at the Blade Show about ten years ago as I fondled a Brend/Branton #5 Boot Knife, slowly laid it back down because of the price, and she said, "If you don't buy it now you'll regret it later." (I didn't and I do.)
At age 65 I was contemplating a new Merkel KR1 6.5x55, and she said, "You should buy it now while you are still young enough to enjoy it." (I did and I do.)
She always hands the credit card bill to me unopened, but for some reason, when the bill came with the charge for the most expensive firearm I have ever bought, she opened it. "What did you buy at Mark's Outdoors for $3,200?", she asked, not in a hostile manner but just inquisitive. I explained that the chances of ever walking in an LGS and finding a brand new Nighthawk Heinie long slide 10mm again was roughly the same odds as getting hit by lightning. (Maybe I exaggerated a bit.) She nodded and that was that.
I have had to put up with this sort of stuff for going on 45 years now. I have extended her probationary period.
She stood at my shoulder at the Blade Show about ten years ago as I fondled a Brend/Branton #5 Boot Knife, slowly laid it back down because of the price, and she said, "If you don't buy it now you'll regret it later." (I didn't and I do.)
At age 65 I was contemplating a new Merkel KR1 6.5x55, and she said, "You should buy it now while you are still young enough to enjoy it." (I did and I do.)
She always hands the credit card bill to me unopened, but for some reason, when the bill came with the charge for the most expensive firearm I have ever bought, she opened it. "What did you buy at Mark's Outdoors for $3,200?", she asked, not in a hostile manner but just inquisitive. I explained that the chances of ever walking in an LGS and finding a brand new Nighthawk Heinie long slide 10mm again was roughly the same odds as getting hit by lightning. (Maybe I exaggerated a bit.) She nodded and that was that.
I have had to put up with this sort of stuff for going on 45 years now. I have extended her probationary period.
This is just another of those issues that needs to be resolved waaaaaaay back at the beginning of a relationship . . . before the relationship becomes "permanent".
Easier said than done, of course, but things will likely never improve, just go downhill.
:roll: :( :roll:
Easier said than done, of course, but things will likely never improve, just go downhill.
:roll: :( :roll:
You see, my wife just shakes her head and walks away. She gave up years ago. Then again, that's likely part of the reason I've kept her for 43 years. On the flip side I don't complain when a new bobble shows up in the safe.
Not sure what you'd call my syndrome, but I call hers the Raven Syndrome. Live crows, ravens and some other birds she likes to bring shinny things back to her nest.
Not sure what you'd call my syndrome, but I call hers the Raven Syndrome. Live crows, ravens and some other birds she likes to bring shinny things back to her nest.
Colonialgirl
Hawkeye
Jeepnik said:
HMMM; Strikes me that YOU are doing the same thing with the exception that your "shiny things" go "BANG !!!'
Colonialgirl said:
Wise gal. I must admit when the two little trouble makers were still at home we slowed way down on that sort of stuff. Now that they have grown up and gotten married I find a need a new bumper sticker.
"I'm spending my kids inheritance". Oh heck, they'll get the stuff eventually.
toysoldier
Hunter
I have to say that my wife doesn't give me grief about my infrequent firearms purchases. However, she seems to feel that it justifies her going out and spending money on something that is nowhere near as practical or useful. :(
Thanks for the replies. My wife has 2 handguns of her own and a CPL. Maybe it's Christmas being right around the corner. In the back of my mind I must have known what was coming, and that is why I left 1 in the truck.
volshooter
Buckeye
Before my wife of pert near 39 years and I ever got married, we had a talk. We agreed that we would set aside our wages, minus running money and savings, towards household. Any extra coins earned would be for each's personal use. To this day, I have never taken any normal wages for personal goodies, nor has she.
Any side jobs, bonuses was to be kept by each.
Ahhhh, but little did she understand that my profession had many opportunities for extra money. Money that I often share quite generously but support my desire for firearms, reloading and hunting. Anytime the subject comes up, I remind her of our conversation as well as her bonuses from her job.
All is well.
Any side jobs, bonuses was to be kept by each.
Ahhhh, but little did she understand that my profession had many opportunities for extra money. Money that I often share quite generously but support my desire for firearms, reloading and hunting. Anytime the subject comes up, I remind her of our conversation as well as her bonuses from her job.
All is well.
I'm reading this thread with great interest. I'm always curious how other people manage their money. It's just simple curiosity nothing more. I guess I've always found it funny Americans won't talk dollars and cents around each other. As in specific costs for something or how much someone makes. In Bulgaria, those questions are not considered rude at all. I guess partly this is the internet and there has to be a degree of privacy...
But my wife and I have never had an argument about money. Probably because we are both pretty frugal and not wasteful. I should admit she is better than I am though. I always tell her if I weren't married to her I would be living in a van underneath a bridge someplace. i also tell her I have never bought two guns in one day, whereas she has often bought two or more pairs of shoes in 24 hours. Do I get upset? No....Does she get upset? Not at all...
But my wife and I have never had an argument about money. Probably because we are both pretty frugal and not wasteful. I should admit she is better than I am though. I always tell her if I weren't married to her I would be living in a van underneath a bridge someplace. i also tell her I have never bought two guns in one day, whereas she has often bought two or more pairs of shoes in 24 hours. Do I get upset? No....Does she get upset? Not at all...
Deal here is..she doesn't count guns or fishin rods, I don't count purses or whatever. If we go broke, we go broke together. Often when you are told it's ok to buy something, you can bet and equal or greater amount is gonna be spent at the mall... We crossed our 30th awhile back...
toysoldier said:
That's the Raven Syndrome I mentioned. You can't fight it, there is no cure, so you might as well just shut up and buy another gun.
exavid
Hunter
I had more or less of a pre-nuptial. Before proposing I told my bride to be that I was always going to be buying sailboats, airplanes, motorcycles and guns. It that was a problem maybe we'd better just be friends. She accepted that 46 years ago and still doesn't as much as roll her eyes when I bring something home. In fact now that I'm not buying boats and airplanes she's probably glad it's only motorcycles and guns.
And in a couple days, after the swelling goes down a bit, you could have another conversation with her. :roll: :roll:427mach1 said:This usually works for me:
The only problem here would be if he didn't bring ME back something as well!
