Which one would you prefer.

[MaxMan]

We just had my 93 year old mother in law move in. She is very sharp mentally, but physically there are issues. Gets very frustrated ,I could do this but not anymore. BTw figured it out 3,000,000,000 heart beats.How would you prefer to go mentally there but physically failing or physically there but mentally failing. And getting struck by lightning while making love and all that is off the table.

 

[JPGLSG1234]

I feel for Max, Linda and I took care of both of our Mothers until we just couldn't do it any longer due to their health issues. We finally had to arranged for both to be placed in an assisted living facilities, which just about broke us $$,$$$ yearly. They were 96 and 100 when they left this world and both were sharp mentally their little body just played out. You just never know what the plan is for us all, hope I go quickly when time comes.

 

[MaxMan]

Thanks for understanding. Right now is the emotional transition of relocating and several life changes are the big hurdle.

 

[Jeepnik]

Did that for my mom. Keep her near. One day you’ll be sitting there and realize what you would give for just one smile, one hug or one scolding. Damn hard to swallow, something in my eyes.

 

[eveled]

I think loosing your mental ability is easier on you, but harder on your loved ones.

I don’t really want to experience either.

Jimmy Buffet: I’d rather die while I’m living than live when I’m dead.

 

[contender]

I've seen both sides. My Dad's mind went before his body did. My mother had her body quit before her mind went completely. Miss Penny's Dad had major health issues, (life long smoker & drinker,) that took him early. Her mother just passed at the age of 90 right before Christmas. Her mind was just about gone,,, and it was a lot of stress on Penny & her sister trying to care for her,, until they finally had to put her in assisted care.

None of it is easy.

Sadly,, I think the medical field has extended life beyond compassion all too often.

 

[MaxMan]

I think loosing your mental ability is easier on you, but harder on your loved ones.

I don't really want to experience either.

Jimmy Buffet: I'd rather die while I'm living than live when I'm dead.

Yeah. Mom went in the blink of an eye. The family used to joke about mom didn't need a seat at Thanksgiving as she never sat down always had to wait on others. She even wanted to serve the cop that brought me home coffee cake and coffee at 2 A M in the night. She was getting to the place where she would need to be the waited on. She was 89. I am grateful for God's mercy on her.

 

[tazbigdog]

I’ve experienced both situations with my parents and in-laws. No good answers. Just love them for the time they have left.

 

[Fox Mike]

Dealing daily with Linda (wife). She had a stroke on Mothers day and hasn't been all there since. Some days she is lucid and other it's just a shell. I happen to be 14+ years older and have my own issues but plod along doing whatever is needed. Will (son) and his sisters do all they can to help. All in all it's what I signed up for. Richer or poorer, sickness and health. No expiration date on that.

 

[Mobuck]

I'm not even close to 93 but get frustrated at the things I feel I should do but can't do because of physical limitations. My 'want to' far exceeds my 'can do'.
Mentally, I have serious worries. My Grandfather ended up in an institution due to what we now call Alzheimer's. Those memories bother me more than I'd normally admit. Mother-in-law spent the final year of her life lost in a fog w/o any real recognition of people.
We don't usually have the option of one or the other.

 

[MaxMan]

Dealing daily with Linda (wife). She had a stroke on Mothers day and hasn't been all there since. Some days she is lucid and other it's just a shell. I happen to be 14+ years older and have my own issues but plod along doing whatever is needed. Will (son) and his sisters do all they can to help. All in all it's what I signed up for. Richer or poorer, sickness and health. No expiration date on that.

Hawkeye, my prayers for you. Total admiration. I feel the same way. Had some what might be called richer, some poorer, lotsa better, some worser, more than regular sickness, some health. Your right no expiration.

 

[Markbo]

The only best way is to be right with God and Jesus before the end.