Yeah, not a big fan of Lee either, but I still use their 9mm sizing die, it seems to work OK.
Because 9mm is a tapered case, and the carbide in the sizing die is tapered as well, sizing die adjustment is more critical than it is with straight wall calibers like .40 s&w.
When you seat a bullet in 9mm, you should be able to see a bulge ring in the brass at the base of the bullet. That will be a good indicator that you have good bullet tension. If you size too far down (possible with some dies), the bulge at the bullet base will be extreme. If you don't see any bulge, chances are you need to adjust down a little.
The RCBS taper crimp die should be perfect. Set it so that it just bumps the case mouth back straight. The bullet tension and the bulge in the brass at the bullet's base will prevent the bullet from being set back into the case during feeding.