My son went through tough times after the divorce but I was still a hands on dad within the limitations of court defined visitation and he spent a year in college and dropped out.
After he was emancipated he lived with me and I had few rules and I leaned on him a bit about cigarette smoking in the house as well as it being an alcohol and marijuana free zone. All of which he had issues with so in a couple of years he was told to move out.
How a bit of time changes things. Luckily he's a diligent worker and has made a good career for himself making really decent money. Now at 30 he's free of smoking all sorts of stupid stuff, doesn't drink, has become an avid fishermen and shooter, drives a nice car, pays all of his own bills and we're still the best of friends.
Patience and being a good example seems to have paid off, I hope it can be this way for every parent.
After 15+ years I still terribly miss the girl I married but NOT the person she became
There's an old saying that goes something like... "No matter how hot she is, someone is glad to be rid of her" Amen to that!
After he was emancipated he lived with me and I had few rules and I leaned on him a bit about cigarette smoking in the house as well as it being an alcohol and marijuana free zone. All of which he had issues with so in a couple of years he was told to move out.
How a bit of time changes things. Luckily he's a diligent worker and has made a good career for himself making really decent money. Now at 30 he's free of smoking all sorts of stupid stuff, doesn't drink, has become an avid fishermen and shooter, drives a nice car, pays all of his own bills and we're still the best of friends.
Patience and being a good example seems to have paid off, I hope it can be this way for every parent.
After 15+ years I still terribly miss the girl I married but NOT the person she became
There's an old saying that goes something like... "No matter how hot she is, someone is glad to be rid of her" Amen to that!