What do your PSAs show?
If it is prostate cancer, and you've caught it early (hopefully), it's very survivable.
I'm 4th Gen to get it through my father's side.
Great-Grandpa died because they didn't catch & didn't have the medical knowledge.
Grandpa died because they caught it too late.
Father survived because it was caught in time & radiation (his choice) was successful.
I survived because they discovered it in time. I chose robotic surgery.
It sounds scary.
My PSAs were up, the Fickle Finger Of Fate showed enlargement, and a biopsy confirmed.
Two days in the hospital, then home with drain, catheter, and pain med pump all dangling.
Five new "bullet holes" across my abdomen, this was 7 years ago & the scars are barely detectable now.
The robotic was the least intrusive in terms of physical surgery, and I didn't want radiation.
Normally I wouldn't discuss this openly, but as one who's been there, I am.
I was expecting it, and the doctor asked my wife "Is he always this calm when he gets news like this?"
Once confirmed, it was a matter of simply moving forward in getting as much info as I could regarding the various treatment options, and choosing the one I thought best for me.
If you go with surgery, it's a nuisance for two or three weeks after, but you build up again.
The key hope is that they're catching it in time, if that's what it is.
And the key advice is to not panic, just handle it.
A good buddy went through the same thing a couple years back.
Again- catch it in time and it's VERY survivable.
Hang in there.
Denis