About that bucket list?

[M118LR]

Many folks have bucket lists, but how many once in a lifetime opportunities have they passed on before they came up with their current bucket list?

In Example, did you attend a prom prior to making a bucket list? Guess you won't ever have the chance to attend your Senior prom even if you do everything on your bucket list. So what importance is a bucket list if you have passed on once in a lifetime experiences?

 

[375hh1973]

I went to my prom. Had a good time.

But in no way does it compare with items on my bucket list. It was fun but if I hadn't gone yeah I would be ok with it.

 

[M118LR]

Yet if you hadn't gone, well you could never have that opportunity again, and even if it made your bucket list you couldn't accomplish it could you?

 

[Al James]

Life is full of opportunities. Some are missed while others are taken. Don't worry about it! Try to live your life to its fullest without regret and understand that you cant win at everything...all the time. Hindsight is sharp. Foresight? Not quite as clear! That's just the way it goes. I've wasted years on things that I should have avoided while not giving a second thought to things that I should have. I try not to dwell or beat myself up about it. Live in the moment!

 

[DGW1949]

I was born in 1949, grew up in the 50's, and came of age in the 60's.....So far I've lived through 7 different decades, done about everything I wanted to do, worked about every kind of job there is, and been more places than I can remember. I also grew up with the best music that ever was, drove better cars than will ever be made again, and experienced more freedom than most people will ever know. Along the line I've watched entire eras come and go, dirt roads get paved, towns change, and times change. I've raced stock cars, attended almost every kind of church there is, and read the entire Bible multiple times. On the flip side, I've done time in a county jail and I've sent people to jail, arrested dozens of bad guys, shot two and ran one over who was shooting at me.....As I got older, it seemed for a while that my main job had become burying people that I love....On the other hand, I've had some real-good friends, several good dogs, two good wives, raised some good kids, and even delivered a baby once.....
My point here is that after all of that, I can't imagine what I'd even put on a bucket list. I am purty-sure though, that if I were to try making one, going to a high school dance probably wouldn't seem important enough to bother with..LOL.

Just sayin' we ain't all the same.

DGW

Edited for spelling

 

[375hh1973]

Yet if you hadn't gone, well you could never have that opportunity again, and even if it made your bucket list you couldn't accomplish it could you?

No, and Im ok with that.

 

[xTopGun]

about the only thing that comes close to putting on a bucket list is wanting to drive a Formula 1 race machine flat-out...................................

but, there's a rumor that I drove this '75 Plymouth Fury on the track one night at the "Glenn", along with a few other squad cars - but that's just a rumor

 

[Yaworski]

Don't really have a bucket list. If something interests me enough and I can afford it, I go do it.

 

[Mike J]

I didn't go to a high school prom. At the time I'd have said I didn't have anyone to go with. Now, I think I just didn't really care about any of that. I was somewhat socially backward in high school. Later on, there were people who somewhat broke me out of that. I prefer not to get to hung up on what I didn't do or maybe should have done in the past. I once had someone tell me that yesterday is a cancelled cheque, tomorrow is a promissory note, & today is cash. Then they asked which I would prefer to do business in. It is more important for me to focus on what I can do than to focus on things in the past I can do nothing about. I don't really have a bucket list. My main goal right now is just having all three of my kids reach a point where they don't need me at all.

 

[peachhead]

Who would put something on a bucket list that they know they can't go back in time and do?

 

[Yaworski]

Who would put something on a bucket list that they know they can't go back in time and do?

Maybe my bucket list includes inventing a time machine, going back to 1977, and convincing my younger self to ask out the attractive classmate who I thought was out of my league but I later learned that she hoped that I'd ask her out. Woulda, coulda, shoulda.

 

[Neon Vernon]

No bucket list here. My maternal grandfather died of cancer when I was a teen and it made an impression on me, as he had a lot of retirement plans he didn't make it to. I realized then that there are no guarantees and life needs to be a balance of working for your future and living life now.

There are things I'd have done differently, or more, or less of, but I checked most of the boxes that mattered to me already.

 

[xTopGun]

Maybe my bucket list includes inventing a time machine, going back to 1977, and convincing my younger self to ask out the attractive classmate who I thought was out of my league but I later learned that she hoped that I'd ask her out. Woulda, coulda, shoulda.

my oldest brother grilled that expression into my skull until I could puke .....but, man I'm I ever thankful for him doing it Smart guy that he is...

 

[XUSNORDIE]

My main goal right now is just having all three of my kids reach a point where they don't need me at all

My main goal was the same, financially anyway. All 4 are financially stable for the most part, no worries there. But I hope that the calls starting off with "Dad how do I fix this?...what do you think about this?.....what you do if?" never stop. Your kids should always need you for some kind of support. If not something went wrong in my opinion. Mine are 36, 30, 28, and 21....the thought of them not needing me at all is a hollow feeling.

Who would put something on a bucket list that they know they can't go back in time and do?

The OP will probably claim to have known Dr. Emmett Brown and assisted him with mentoring Marty McFly.......oh, and it was his DeLorean....

 

[Mike J]

My main goal was the same, financially anyway. All 4 are financially stable for the most part, no worries there. But I hope that the calls starting off with "Dad how do I fix this?...what do you think about this?.....what you do if?" never stop. Your kids should always need you for some kind of support. If not something went wrong in my opinion. Mine are 36, 30, 28, and 21....the thought of them not needing me at all is a hollow feeling.



The OP will probably claim to have known Dr. Emmett Brown and assisted him with mentoring Marty McFly.......oh, and it was his DeLorean....

I believe I can be fine without them needing me but if they don't want contact with me then that would probably upset me. I started having them late so mine are 20 (soon to be 21), 19 & 13. The older two are both in college, I have no idea what the boy, the youngest, will do. He has an interest in airplanes so maybe he can learn how to do something related to that.

 

[XUSNORDIE]

I believe I can be fine without them needing me but if they don't want contact with me then that would probably upset me. I started having them late so mine are 20 (soon to be 21), 19 & 13. The older two are both in college, I have no idea what the boy, the youngest, will do. He has an interest in airplanes so maybe he can learn how to do something related to that.

When they begin to leave the nest things change. When they are all completely out of the nest and on their own things really change. Especially if they are far away, starting their own lives/families. The last was the most difficult for me. Had him a bit late also. He was raised almost exactly as I was. Very similar interests and life plans. He knew what he wanted to do since he was 5 years old....and for the most part he's doing it now. A week from High School graduation and he was in boot camp. If I were to guess.....he will probably complete anything on my bucket list that I didn't. Wish I could be around long enough to watch him do it.

 

[txramfan]

A list of the places n people I've shared a bucket of beers and the brand on the bucket would be more interesting to me than a list of stuff to do or buy or see and check off a list on paper.

 

[Yaworski]

A list of the places n people I've shared a bucket of beers and the brand on the bucket would be more interesting to me than a list of stuff to do or buy or see and check off a list on paper.

The bucket list is more metaphorical than real.

 

[txramfan]

The bucket list is more metaphorical than real.

My reply is based on a former friend who kept lists of things he did and frankly people do write down things they want to do, that is a bucket list, try laying off attempts to educate.

 

[t-reg]

I never went to a prom. Thought is was silly, had no interest, it's a waste of time and a waste of money. Zero regrets, and that thought process has continued to serve me well for over 40 years without regret. I guess you could sat it's a bucket list thing to never do things simply because others think it's cool or you "have to".

There are trhings on my bucket list and I do what I can to make them happen. Some will happen, some won't, but that's the way it is.

 

[Cholo]

I don't believe I have anything left on my bucket list. I've done just about everything I've ever wanted.

Well, me going out with Jessica Alba when she was in Sin City was on my bucket list, but that ship has sailed. Now, she's too old for me LOL

 

[Sam Summey]

Many folks have bucket lists, but how many once in a lifetime opportunities have they passed on before they came up with their current bucket list?

In Example, did you attend a prom prior to making a bucket list? Guess you won't ever have the chance to attend your Senior prom even if you do everything on your bucket list. So what importance is a bucket list if you have passed on once in a lifetime experiences?

In the bucket list question my now deceased son had two bucket list items,. 1 was to attend the EAA fly in at Oshkosh WI. In 2023 we set off with an old camper in tow. We got to Corbin KY, the transmission went out on his truck. He said to me, "I guess the trip was not to be this year, I said we will make it to Oshkosh this if I have to carry you on my back." We located another truck and made the trip. He died opening day, Oshkosh 2024.

 

[Yaworski]

frankly people do write down things they want to do, that is a bucket list,

Pick up dry cleaning
Get hair cut
Buy milk

That's not a bucket list.

 

[M118LR]

About the only thing left on my bucket list is to live long enough to spend quality time with the Great Grandkids. Perhaps I should have started a bit earlier than 30? But then I didn't care much for spouses or children. Guess things change with age?

 

[txramfan]

Pick up dry cleaning
Get hair cut
Buy milk

That's not a bucket list.

Delete
And bye

 

[Yaworski]

Delete
And bye

Deleting yourself, that's good. Buh-bye.

 

[gonepostal]

Don't really have a bucket list. If something interests me enough and I can afford it, I go do it.

I agree. Sometimes even if I can't afford it.

 

[rcs9250]

Never went to prom or homecoming stuff, I had a dirt bike, at the time it was far more entertaining than girls. I dive into hobbies 100%, they consume my life. Can’t say I ever had a bucket list. I think that’s something boomers invented as they got into their 60’s. Somewhere in my early thirties I could see from co/workers, relatives and other acquaintances that the body ain’t immortal so I started doing stuff while I was in great shape and healthy, and dove in 100%.
I got into fishing, water skiing, canoeing, backpacking, rock climbing, caving, skydiving, scuba diving, competitive shooting and hunting. Now at 70 years old I’m very glad for those opportunities. I still hunt, fish and shoot and am very active in work projects at my gun club. It’s been a fun run. Would like to see the Northern lights someday, but if I don’t, not the end of the world.

 

[coachk64]

I believe the point of a bucket list is to have things to strive for, not necessarily goals to just cross off like a grocery list. If you manage to clear all of the items off of your list, you're left with nothing to really look forward to. If you are content with your day-to-day existence, than you are very fortunate indeed, but I think I'll always need something drawing me forward. Doesn't mean I can't enjoy life as it is, and I do, but I like to think that there are some things I still dream about doing or having.

A man's reach must exceed his grasp. (Don't know where that quote came from, I can't claim it as my own but I've always remembered it.)

 

[Kevin]

Yet if you hadn't gone, well you could never have that opportunity again, and even if it made your bucket list you couldn't accomplish it could you?

I don’t have a defined bucket list. There are a few must do’s. But if they don’t happen I don’t think I will regret it.

I also don’t have many regrets. I think by having a bucket list you are setting yourself up for regrets if it doesn’t happen in just a particular way.

For example in high school and college I rode a motorcycle. I always wanted to get another. But I don’t think that will happen. So instead of regrets I’m changing my expectations.