Hi,
From the sometimes you're just in the wrong place at the wrong time file:
My great great grandfather was a farmer in VA, when he picked up everything he had, including his wife and small son, and went with Daniel Boone to KY. The small settlement they built was attacked by Indians, who killed his wife, stole his son to be brought up an Indian, and "sold him (gg-gf) to the French", whatever that entailed (read "white slavery"?) Years later he managed to get back to KY, got his son back from the Indians, remarried, and my great grandfather came along.
At some time the family had relocated from KY to IN, where my great grandfather joined the 150th Indiana Infantry Regiment. They almost missed the war, not being called up until March 9, 1865. Counting on my fingers and toes, that's a month to the day before Gen'l Lee signed the papers. The 150th was sent to Harper's Ferry according to a book on the family we have, and in that month, my great grandfather managed to get himself wounded and sent home. I don't know how or where he was wounded, but my Mom--his granddaughter--told me he suffered after effects of the wound his whole life, and died early.
FWIW, I don't recall stories about how any of these folks who'd had some rather serious problems ever holding on to bad feelings about the Indians, or the Rebels. For a while, sure, but generations? Stuff happened, it killed you or you survived it, and you got on with your life. Or so the book recounts the stories. Later, great grandfather relocated from IN to MO, where my grandfather was born and raised. He was probably the most tolerant person our family had, and we never heard him say anything bad about the folks involved in the family mishaps, nor did he hold a grudge for what had happened a century before. He didn't like farm life, and got off the farm as soon as he could, going on to obtain the first college degree on either side of the family, served in the Navy in WWI, and generally had a pretty good life. Don't like your current life? As someone once put it, change your attitude or your latitude.
I wish there was a way to ask some of these people who actually did see some pretty horrific things in their lives what they think about today's goings on. The might change their tune and start saying some bad things!
Rick C