life lesson in session

[bobski]

a friend invites you to a night out for dinner. you drive 3 hours to get there. its at a rustic hippy kind of urban byob place to eat where everyone wears tie die and dirty ball caps. ya know...sorta like what you find in n.c. these days.
its smack dab in the secluded hills of the Ozarks. no downtown, its just a shack across from cemetery on the side of a narrow mountain road.
owner graduated from culinary school of n.y. so he aint no beginner.
you pull up and find out the place is an old abandoned country store converted into a restaurant. tin roof patched here and there, been open 5-10 years, old pickup trucks with dogs walking around outside, you think twice...but go in. once in...you see the flames from the grill and hustling waiters delivering sea bass, gourmet kinda stuff and holy cow steaks. no booze on tap, you literally walk in with your own. a guitarist and jug player are playing folk blue grass in one corner, elbow room only, and people are q'd up outside to get in. (you just made it and got the last seat.)
food is served fast, the owner makes his rounds and knows the friends you are visiting, you compliment him for his guts to make a go of it and tell him how great the food was. your wife was really pleased. you pay your bill, step outside to be on your way and the owner is outside and stops you.
he tells you a dirty joke in front of your wife and hosts.

what do you do?

1. punch his lights out?
2. say goodbye and never return?
3. laugh and be one of the guys?

 

[Skoopski]

Accept the fact that my wife is a grown woman and can handle a joke...
But then again, we both have pretty dark senses of humor.

It is bad taste, and is bad for business though.

 

[Doc Holliday]

#2, after you politely tell the owner that 'wasn't necessary'.

Too far in the first place.

 

[ChiefMuzz]

I hope #1 doesn't cross anyone's mind here. #3 isn't something I would necessarily do either though everyone's definition of dirty is different. From what you described about the place it seems to have a dirtier vibe to it. If something or someone there offends me the easiest answer is not to go back.

 

[bobski]

3 hours is never too far for a friendship.

 

[Fox Mike]

Then there is option #4. Say absolutely nothing, turn, and leave.

 

[Robb Barnes]

What Doc Holliday said. Tell him you don’t appreciate that kind of “humor” and you won’t be back then leave. I had a dentist that thought stuff like that was funny and even after I told him I did not come to hear his dirty jokes he kept it up ——- until I clamped down on his fingers with my teeth and told him again when I KNEW he was listening. End of dirty jokes from him.

 

[bogus bill]

Since he evidently knew your friend I suspect he judged you by the company your friend kept. From that I would say a slightly different version of number 2. It does sound to me like it`s a "nitch" type restaurant for a certain type clientele . Several weeks ago I went to a nearby fast food drive through. They took my order at the window and I waited for what seemed like twenty minuets and no service. I blew up, pulled over and went into the place and tore azz. There was a big crowd inside that heard me lose it. I had been having bad service there before and shouldn't have went back. In THEORY I felt I was right, yet I still hate myself for losing it. I made everyone feel bad including me and changed nothing.

 

[375hh1973]

#3

I like dirty jokes

 

[Sagebrush Burns]

Was it a good joke? If so, laugh.

 

[blackhawknj]

Option No. 2. And let him know why and that you will be spreading the word.

 

[SamV]

He probably thought he was including you in some sort of insider's group. Kind of like you are in the club now with your friends. Poor judgement on his part. I would have probably let him know that he had a good restaurant but a poor sense of humor. I wouldn't be mean or angry, but it was inappropriate and he should know.

 

[Johnnu2]

I wouldn't give it a second thought....

 

[Big Old Boy]

I would offer him a beer and swap jokes with him, my wife and I are all grown up and not thin skinned.

 

[JackpineWillie]

I like #4 with Fox Mike

 

[bogus bill]

Sounds like a unique type hangout where the richer type wannabe rednecks go for a good meal. Also sounds like the owner has found what he THINKS is a going nitch and works at promoting the image.
My dad would have said, "Don`t insult my intelligence or I don't argue with ignorance."