You really need to re-read what PieRow posted about a trust and being an executor.
My mother-in-law had a trust and when she passed away, except for the sale of her house, her entire estate -- savings accounts, stocks, house deed, etc. -- was distributed to the three children within about 3 days of her burial. And without the need for a probate attorney or going to court.
When we lived in California, we had a trust drawn up and upon moving to Washington, we had an attorney review it. I asked him if we did not have a trust how long it would take to probate our estate. He replied about 4-6 months plus court and attorney's fees. He said a trust takes a few days. I once asked a bank officer how long would it take for my wife have access to our accounts (I will most likely predecease her). He said since the all accounts are included in/are part of your trust, "minutes" -- just bring down the trust papers and ID. Without a trust all of your assets are frozen until the will clears probate.
As for the executorship problems, a good friend of mine asked if I would be his executor. I respectfully declined for the issues PieRow stated. As it turned out, he had earlier mentioned to his son and daughter that he was going to ask me about being executor. When he passed, his daughter and son, girlfriend, and two or three cousins, started calling about the will, where it was located, what they were getting, and when they would get the money, how much I was going to take as the executor fee, etc. None of them really got along. Since they did not believe that I was not executor, the attorney wrote them a letter stating that under the terms of the will he was the executor. Even though they knew who the executor was, they still would call and complain -- "so and so and the lawyer are screwing me out of what is mine", what could I do to help, why does it take so long, etc. If I saw them in town, at the gun shop, or at the range, they would start in complaining. It was a very long 18 months.