Facebook....HELP

[opos]

Old man with a huge dislike for new stuff...but...it appears we are just about shut off from the family as everyone including the 7 year old great grandson uses facebook and all the other social media to communicate...we still use e mails for about everything unless, God forbid, we should talk in person...irritated? I guess.

I tried Facebook about 2 years ago because I wanted to contact someone in the entertainment business that I had grown up with...thought I'd just e mail...but they only use facebook...so I thought what the heck...I'll give it a shot.

Something was all wrong with what I did....I signed up and began to check boxes of who, what, where and when with regard to who could be my friends, etc....it was like I'd opened the spillway at the Oroville Dam...I was getting names, addresses, information, etc from people I didn't know and had never met...somehow I'd put contacts in the thing and it was not only giving me information on them but also giving me accesss and info on everyone in their mail list...and then it started to give me friends of friends of friends...it was terrible...I couldn't erase things fast enough to catch up with the onslaught.

Finally got a friend that is computer savvy to help me get out of it...we killed it with the warning that if I ever came back it would pick up where we had left off and I've never ventured there again....

My Daughter asked me if I had gotten the pictures from my Grandson and his wife that are traveling in Europe...when I asked her to just send me a copy if she would she said I really need to get facebook...I'm resisting...I've looked at things about facebook and it talks about telling folks what I'm doing, where I am, where I'm going, etc...not much interested in doing that...it said it will work on my mobile device...don't have a mobile device u nless my flip phone is mobile...says I can look up old school frineds..probably all dead...just thinking of talking to the immediate family without a chance of ending up with a whole bunch of their frineds on my list...

Has Facebook gotten easier to use (probably just me) where you can be very selective who you talk with? I wouldn't mind having my immediate family on a list where we could communicate but I sure don't want to be included in all their chatter with their friends and the inlaws....Again, I'm old and hard to teach...just looking for some input...I never have been much swayed by "what I should do" to be modern..I'm 80 and modern left me long ago.

Thanks for any input.

 

[Jimbo357mag]

I believe you can look at someones facebook page and not have to participate or sign up. You could look at their page and then send them an email if you want.

 

[chuck]

I'm with you on that. It will be interesting to see what kind of answers you get.

 

[Pat-inCO]

My Daughter asked me if I had gotten the pictures from my Grandson
and his wife that are traveling in Europe...when I asked her to just send
me a copy if she would she said I really need to get facebook...

My reply would have been "No, YOU need to do what you were asked."
Then add "Have you forgotten HOW to do simple things?"

IMO, there is no need to "share" everything you do with anyone that
wants to look/read what ever you have.

OR you could have her print everything and sent it via snail mail. :wink:

 

[pete44ru]

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You can make your existing Facebook page "private", ILO of "public".

FWIW, I get friend requests from whoever, but if I don't want to "friend" them, I just ignore the friend request.

Any "friends" attached to or on one's FB page can be handled in any of 3 ways:

* You can deal with them
* You can "block" them (and they'll never see the block)
* You can "un-friend" them

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[gasbag]

My Daughter asked me if I had gotten the pictures from my Grandson
and his wife that are traveling in Europe...when I asked her to just send
me a copy if she would she said I really need to get facebook...

My reply would have been "No, YOU need to do what you were asked."
Then add "Have you forgotten HOW to do simple things?"

IMO, there is no need to "share" everything you do with anyone that
wants to look/read what ever you have.

OR you could have her print everything and sent it via snail mail. :wink:

That would have been my answer.
There are 800 ways to communicate with people without Facebook.
You know, like letters, emails, telephones, video chats on phones.
Is it that Facebook is so addictive or that people don't want to take the time
or effort to communicate, especially when they are given an easy and
reasonable alternative.

 

[Bud0505]

Create a facebook page and only friend your daughter and grandson. That is what the wife and I did. Used bogus data for the mandatory blocks. We have 3 friends and that allow us to see the grandkids. That is all we need.

 

[opos]

Last night I sent a text and an e mail to the family...told them we have been considering facebook and have made the decision not to mess with it at this time..asked that if they can see their way clear to just make an exception for pictures, etc for us we would really appreciate it...all replied they would do so ....so no facebook follies for us....Thanks for the input here on this thread...I hear Facebook is sort of on the way out anyway and something new will take it's place....
so probably not missing too much..thanks again
opos

 

[gramps]

Thanks opos, my family gives the same pressure. Weekly some sort of scam is going on in Facebook, and I think WHEW! I am not there!
gramps

 

[vito]

I like Facebook. It not only makes it easy to keep up with casual friends and acquaintances from the dim past but lets me engage in arguments with some crazy Left wing relatives! Through Facebook I re-connected with an old Army buddy who is now in his 80's, and Facebook gives me just enough connection for my needs. His daughter was the first person to babysit my then infant first child, and through Facebook we now have a casual but nice connection, and she is a grandmother! I also find that by joining several specialty groups on Facebook I have a good source for advice in those specific areas. For example, I own a travel trailer and participate in a Facebook page for the specific brand and type of trailer, and on more than one occasion have gotten answers to immediate and important issues that have arisen with the trailer while away on a trip. The help has been invaluable.

I don't see a need to try to amass an enormous listing of "friends", so I am not deluged with too many entries on people I have no desire to keep connected to. Its simple enough each day to quickly scan the Home page on Facebook and decide whether or not to comment or Share on any number of things. And as I said earlier, I really enjoy being able to ridicule and criticize the crazy Lefties who go bonkers when I praise Trump or criticize the witch Hilary Clinton.

 

[caryc]

If someone can't be bothered to pick up a phone or at the very least email me, then I don't need to hear from them. I don't do "texts" either. I use my phone to talk.

 

[SR1911SHOOTER]

If someone can't be bothered to pick up a phone or at the very least email me, then I don't need to hear from them. I don't do "texts" either. I use my phone to talk.

What caryc said!
blackie

 

[graygun]

I'm not on it either. I already have a face and at least one book.

 

[rugerguy]

Cary, you must have read my mind....or are YOU ,,,,me??? this is crazy 8) :roll: :wink:

 

[Taterman]

I've been on Facebook for several years, but I rarely use it and don't get spammed. You just need to turn off most of the notification alerts so you don't get flooded with friend requests from strangers. I do get emails when there are new pics or news from friends, but that's about all I use it for. It's nice to see pics of cousins and old friends I haven't seen in a while.
I've also reconnected with a few old long lost friends.

 

[chuck]

I'm with you on that. It will be interesting to see what kind of answers you get.

After reading all the ans. I still aint going to do that their face book thing.
Course I don't use my turn signal on my PU cause it aint nobody's business where I'm going.

 

[chm270]

Every time you look at a facebook page you contribute to liberal zuckerberg.