A Dad Story.

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Dang it Bob after reading your post and thinking back to the good and some bad times as a Kid with my Dad. I thought I would tell a story of what one of the skills that he taught me.
As I stated in Bob's post about my Dad who was a Lath and Plastering Contractor. He and my Grandfather had their Company in Mid. Ohio. Dad was just getting started when WWII started and he joined the USAAF as a B-17 Ball Turret Gunner. After his discharge he went back to plastering. Plastering was doing good in the late 40s and 50s because very few houses used sheetrock at that time. We called that stuff G-Damn drywall. Most of the higher end houses used plaster. But later most all houses were using sheetrock.
Now my part of being in the plastering business began when I was in grade school. On a lot of the Saturdays Dad would go to the jobs to do patch /repair work or build scaffold for Mondays. Now you might ask what did I do. Well it was a job I absolutely hated. It consisted of removing the dropped plaster from the floors. Concrete slab wasn't to bad BUT a WOOD subfloor was a real high grade of sh!tty. To do this task you get on your hands and knees with a concrete/plaster trowel in hand and start scrapping then sweep the crap up. Yep as you scrape the damn trowel hits the uneven floor boards and sends a shock up your arm.
As I got bigger and older my jobs also got bigger, during the summers. I mixed the plaster in both the mixing box and with the mixer. Carrying the hod, which is a V-shaped open trough on a pole, full of plaster wasn't to bad except when you had to go upstairs.
When I caught up on these jobs Dad would show me how to use a hawk and trowel to apply brown coat which is the first layer of plaster. When doing commercial buildings most had sprayed on ceilings of plaster asbestos mix. Yep I was spray guy. Dad also built 3 houses and I also learned how to apply Stucco on two of them. For finnish coats one was sprayed on and one was California style which is troweled on.
Now when did all of these fine skills pay off you might ask.
Well let me told you.
When I was 14-15 and in the 9TH grade of our small town school there had been a water leak in the ceiling which caused 3' +- square area of the plaster to fall down. This just happened to be outside of my science class. After a few weeks I asked my science teacher if he wanted me to fix it. He looked at me wide eyed and asked "You can do that" I replied "sure no problem" The teacher and I had gotten along very well in the past and both of us had respect for each other. So he gets principal's approval. The next Saturday I brought my hawk and trowel, some Zonelight and brown coat plaster to fix it after I mixed it up. The lath was metal so I didn't have to fix it.

Sorry this was so long just one of many stories growing up in a small town in the 50s.
I had great times with Dad while working our arss off and playing hard.:-)
 
Love it.

Many feel that the Mother is the main parent in a family. And while they do a lot,, I often feel in my case,, it was much more often the things I learned from my Dad that made the biggest difference.
We praise mothers, we lavish them with gifts & such on Mother's Day. Father's Day seems to be a whole lot more subdued than Mother's Day. But in my case,, I know it was the things I learned as well as the lessons of life that my Dad imparted that helped sculpt me into who I became.
 
I think we are all closer to our dads than we ever admitted to them when they were living. I'm glad I got to pass my thoughts along to my Dad before he passed last year. It's funny because we butted heads the most out of all the kids in my family, but his praise meant more to me than I ever would have thought later in life. I try to keep that in mind with my own kids now.
 
I learned a lot from my dad like minor electrical, plumbing, and auto mechanics. He often had words of wisdom that I think of from time to time.
3 of the ones I often think off that has served me well through out my life:
1. Just because something is legal to do doesn't mean it is the smart thing to do.
2. Don't bother people that don't want to bothered by you, life will be much easier.
3. Integrity is doing the right thing even when nobody is looking.
 
Nice stories. My dad was a University professor (science.) I remember going over to his office on the weekends and getting to use all the science lab stuff. Then we would get to go eat in one of the dorms or the Student Union for lunch. It was fun to be around all the college kids. We did that just about every Saturday.

He made sure we were the very first family in town to have a computer. The mighty Radio Shack Tandy! Our television was the monitor. I remember going downtown to pick it up, it was during winter, so probably for Christmas. He also got me started into photography.

So yeah, I did learn a whole lot from him.
 
50 years ago, when Dad taught me how to drive, he told me “having the right of way doesn’t do you any good if you’re dead”. ;)

Sound advice. Particularly with the invention of cell phones and the subsequent proliferation of distracted drivers.
 
I'm sorry to say that I had a father. I didn't have a dad. Dad's don't beat their kid for not getting evry dandelion dug up in the yard. Dad's don't beat their kid for not shoveling all of the driveway. Dad's don't beat their kid for coming in late. Father's do. I wish I would of had a dad.
 
It's strange that this is coming up because my son Will and I were talking about this very subject just a couple days ago. He said that he had learned so much by just watching how I tackle projects and problems. I told him that is how I obtained my various abilities, by watching and questioning my dad. I was taught to set goals and work towards those goals. You may never achieve all the goals but never stop working toward them.
 
I'm sorry to say that I had a father. I didn't have a dad. Dad's don't beat their kid for not getting evry dandelion dug up in the yard. Dad's don't beat their kid for not shoveling all of the driveway. Dad's don't beat their kid for coming in late. Father's do. I wish I would of had a dad.
I know the feeling and share your experience. I was OK with my father when he died but we were not close. I have paid my own way since I was 14 and that was the last time I allowed him to lay a hand on me. Sorry that you had to experience it. When my father gave up drinking he could be a dad. I got my work ethic from him but he lacked patience where I am a very patient man. Just be a better man than he was and use your energy constructively.
 
I know the feeling and share your experience. I was OK with my father when he died but we were not close. I have paid my own way since I was 14 and that was the last time I allowed him to lay a hand on me. Sorry that you had to experience it. When my father gave up drinking he could be a dad. I got my work ethic from him but he lacked patience where I am a very patient man. Just be a better man than he was and use your energy constructively.
I always tried to be better than my father. My wife and I raised three children. My son is the oldest at 44, and my daughters are 40 and 36. I made sure that violence was not a tool to use. We have five beautiful grandchildren also. But I wanted to make sure the relationship bewtween my son and I was a strong one. I coached him in baseball, basketball, and football, up until high school. Then he focused on baseball and football. We had a lot of great bonding times during those years, but it was kidney failure when he was 22 that pulled us even closer. I gave him one of my kidney's, and it seemed to cement our relationship even more. It is different with girls, and I admit I didn't spend as much quality time with them as I should have. I went to all of their events, and supported all of their decisions, but it's just different. I also had to become my fathers POA in the last stages of his life, and to be honest, I really didn't want to do it. I still had no love for the man. But I did what I had to do. He was just starting to get dementia at that time, so that made it even more difficult. I think God was trying to patch things up between us, but it just wasn't there. I was relieved when he passed, as I didn't have to deal with him anymore. I gave what little monies were left over to my two brothers and sisters. I wanted no part of anything he touched. I just can't bring myself to forgive him for the torture myself anf family went through. Sory for the long story. Thanks for the kind words. Have a blessed day!
 
Wyandot Jim,

Great post!
You unknowingly just educated me and maybe others about why gypsum board/sheetrock is called “drywall”.
It’s because plaster was put on wet.
And now we know…..

Thanks for that!
 
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