Stroke has Struck
- Thread starter GasGuzzler
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Condolences to you and the family. 
jules
Single-Sixer
Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family
David Lee Valdina
Single-Sixer
You can pick my brain for what to do, free. I am a lawyer, retired and not from Texas. Most probate laws follow similar steps. Lawyers are helpful but might not be necessary, same with CPAs. Anyway, call me if I can be helpful. East coast time, usually phone off by 8PM. 508-776-1944. [email protected]
Good thoughts and prayers for your whole family in this difficult time, God speed for your father.
Condolences and prayers. 
I am sorry to hear of your loss. When my wife passed (she died at home) Hospice call the funeral home of our choice. I a few hours the undertakers arrived to remove the body. I met with the funeral home the next day paid them for their service of cremation, listing the notice of death in newspaper (obituary). In 72 hours or so the funeral home called we met again and received 6 notarized death certificates, and the ashes. It took me about 3 months to close out the estate even though we had joint ownership of everything and survivorship of investments.
So very sorry, prayers for you and your family and friends
@GasGuzzler I’m sorry for your loss.
OP
GasGuzzler
Hawkeye
I have paid for most of what needs paid for including ten copies of the DC. My Dad's first career after a BS in math and his Vietnam tour in the Army was computer programmer. He took an early leave of absence then retirement from IBM and got a Masters in religion then started and ran a non-profit that assisted Christian churches in times of turmoil. Because of his various areas of service and his personality, we expect 250-400 people to attend his service. I have lined out the speakers and the greeting/seating live music. Mom has a soloist. My cousin will make a montage of pictures that I am compiling. We still need to design and print the order of service in memorium leaflet thingies but the actual order of service needs fully nailed down too. Oh and the date and time is not yet decided although the venue is.
Mom already knows she must move and sell the place they built starting in 2003. She's likely moving very close to us (she is an hour away right now) but there's time to situate considering the estate needs settled. We have a fifth wheel travel trailer, ZTR mower, 4WD tractor, etc. to sell as well as the house and 4.5 acres. I want to set Mom up with a trust before her health gets worse so we can avoid probate, etc. I need to do that for myself as well ... and get a physical. Talked to one of the nurses and she has convinced me to get really proactive really quickly as my Dad's Mom and her brothers had strokes. I don't even have a doctor.
With every hurdle comes another. The world is an entirely different place without Mr. Dan.
Mom already knows she must move and sell the place they built starting in 2003. She's likely moving very close to us (she is an hour away right now) but there's time to situate considering the estate needs settled. We have a fifth wheel travel trailer, ZTR mower, 4WD tractor, etc. to sell as well as the house and 4.5 acres. I want to set Mom up with a trust before her health gets worse so we can avoid probate, etc. I need to do that for myself as well ... and get a physical. Talked to one of the nurses and she has convinced me to get really proactive really quickly as my Dad's Mom and her brothers had strokes. I don't even have a doctor.
With every hurdle comes another. The world is an entirely different place without Mr. Dan.
Condolences to your family
Butterfield
Bearcat
Sorry for your loss GasGuzzler. Lots of new stuff to learn.
I'm sure you can handle it. Gods blessings on you and the family.
I'm glad he was ready to go and was walking with the Lord.
I'm sure you can handle it. Gods blessings on you and the family.
I'm glad he was ready to go and was walking with the Lord.
Star43
Hunter
GG, I read your post just now and it sounds like you are doing the right things and trying to get this whole thing done one thing at a time and also thinking down the road for your Mom and your self. I feel for you guy and it makes me think of what I had to do with my folks a few years ago. First I lost my Dad and 2 years later Iost my Mom. What really sucked for me was I'm in CA and my folks were in Mass. It still bothers me that I was so far away and didn't spend more time with them. Every year around April 18th, I would always go back and visit them for at least a week. The 18th was her birthday and also their wedding anniversary since they got married on her birthday. But now they are both passed. Up until recently I always had the urge to call her on a Sunday afternoon as that is what I always did. Sorry I am boring you with all this. What I'm trying to say is once they are gone, you can't call them any more.....As for your Mom, it sounds good what you are planning....As for your Dad, he sounds like a great guy, and you are correct in that the world is a different place without him. This world needs more guys like "Mr. Dan"....But his spirit is still here. This whole thing probably gives you a very surreal type of feeling. I know it did with me....Just take it a day at a time, and you and your family will get through this....Take care, Steve
OP
GasGuzzler
Hawkeye
Services to be held at Trinity Baptist Church, 2627 Loy Lake Rd. Sherman, TX 75090 on Saturday, February 21, 2026 at 2:00 PM. In lieu of flowers, the family has chosen to ask for support of this charity ---> GoSendme Global
I understand if this violates forum rules and must not be posted. Edit as needed.
I understand if this violates forum rules and must not be posted. Edit as needed.
OP
GasGuzzler
Hawkeye
Service went well. Nearly 300 attended. It was broadcast live for those around the world (really) that could not attend. I made it though my speech. Music was great (all played live) and the TWO HOUR service flew by like a normal service. Church provided lunch beforehand. Truly blessed. Now comes the next steps in a long and weird journey.
Star43
Hunter
You are right that it's a weird type of journey. I bet you were feeling like this whole event was kind of surreal. I know that is how I felt for my folks. Glad it all went well and you got through your speech. I also bet it made your Dad proud.
