John is my Heart...

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A friend send me this email. Warning, may be difficult to see through foggy eyes.




John Is My Heart


This is a well-written article about a father who put several of his kids through expensive colleges but one son wanted to be a Marine. Interesting observation by this dad. See below. A very interesting commentary that says a lot about our failing and fallen society.


By Frank Schaeffer of the Washington Post



"Before my son became a Marine, I never thought much about who was defending me. Now when I read of the war on terrorism or the coming conflict in Iraq, it cuts to my heart. When I see a picture of a member of our military who has been killed, I read his or her name very carefully. Sometimes I cry.


In 1999, when the barrel-chested Marine recruiter showed up in dress blues and bedazzled my son John, I did not stand in the way. John was headstrong, and he seemed to understand these stern, clean men with straight backs and flawless uniforms. I did not. I live in the Volvo-driving, higher education-worshiping North Shore of Boston I write novels for a living. I have never served in the military.


It had been hard enough sending my two older children off to Georgetown and New York University. John's enlisting was unexpected, so deeply unsettling. I did not relish the prospect of answering the question, "So where is John going to college?" from the parents who were itching to tell me all about how their son or daughter was going to Harvard. At the private high school John attended, no other students were going into the military.


"But aren't the Marines terribly Southern?" (Says a lot about open-mindedness in the Northeast) asked one perplexed mother while standing next to me at the brunch following graduation. "What a waste, he was such a good student," said another parent. One parent (a professor at a nearby and rather famous university) spoke up at a school meeting and suggested that the school should “carefully evaluate what went wrong."


When John graduated from three months of boot camp on Parris Island, 3000 parents and friends were on the parade deck stands. We parents and our Marines not only were of many races but also were representative of many economic classes. Many were poor. Some arrived crammed in the backs of pickups, others by bus. John told me that a lot of parents could not afford the trip.


We in the audience were white and Native American. We were Hispanic, Arab, and African American, and Asian. We were former Marines wearing the scars of battle, or at least baseball caps emblazoned with battles' names. We were Southern whites from Nashville and skinheads from New Jersey, black kids from Cleveland wearing ghetto rags and white ex-cons with ham-hock forearms defaced by jailhouse tattoos. We would not have been mistaken for the educated and well-heeled parents gathered on the lawns of John’s private school a half-year before.


After graduation one new Marine told John, "Before I was a Marine, if I had ever seen you on my block I would've probably killed you just because you were standing there." This was a serious statement from one of John’s good friends, a black ex-gang member from Detroit who, as John said, "would die for me now, just like I'd die for him."


My son has connected me to my country in a way that I was too selfish and insular to experience before. I feel closer to the waitress at our local diner than to some of my oldest friends. She has two sons in the Corps. They are facing the same dangers as my boy. When the guy who fixes my car asks me how John is doing, I know he means it. His younger brother is in the Navy.


Why were I and the other parents at my son's private school so surprised by his choice? During World War II, the sons and daughters of the most powerful and educated families did their bit. If the idea of the immorality of the Vietnam War was the only reason those lucky enough to go to college dodged the draft, why did we not encourage our children to volunteer for military service once that war was done?


Have we wealthy and educated Americans all become pacifists? Is the world a safe place? Or have we just gotten used to having somebody else defend us? What is the future of our democracy when the sons and daughters of the janitors at our elite universities are far more likely to be put in harm’s way than are any of the students whose dorms their parents clean?


I feel shame because it took my son's joining the Marine Corps to make me take notice of who is defending me. I feel hope because perhaps my son is part of a future "greatest generation." As the storm clouds of war gather, at least I know that I can look the men and women in uniform in the eye. My son is one of them. He is the best I have to offer. John is my heart.


Faith is not about everything turning out OK;


Faith is about being OK no matter how things turn out."


Oh, how I wish so many of our younger generations could read this article. It makes me so sad to hear the way they talk with no respect for what their fathers, grandfathers and great grandfathers experienced so they can live in freedom. Freedom has been replaced with Free-Dumb.
 
While my family is one from which everyone who is able serves, I can understand the writer position.

I never understood what my father went through when I went overseas until I sent two sons to the Gulf. I suppose it's been this way since the first time a son had to fight to protect not only his country but his family I got mine back mostly in tact. Many other fathers and mothers did not.

I have a photo that my youngest took in Fallujah on his first tour. Two of the young men in that photo came back draped in the flag for which they served.
 
Powerful.
Too bad many of the folks in the "Volvo-driving, higher education-worshiping North Shore of Boston" & other places like that fail to understand this.
 
Proud to be a dumb hick.

Seriously,,, I'm glad you were being sarcastic. But the truth of the matter is that a lot more of the service members do come from a lower income family. And a lot of the "upper crust" liberals in places like Boston, (for example) do feel it is beneath their stature in society to serve. They prefer to pay for their protection. Sadly,, the REAL cost of protection is often blood, something they fail to understand.

But luckily,,, there are a lot of well educated young people who are raised to appreciate the value of Freedom. And many of them do come from families of well educated & prosperous parents.

It's all in how they are raised.
 
In this letter the author writes about the Marines and their background, he or she hints at inner-city youth in trouble at school or with the police and how some of them were "no-goods" before their enlistment.

Never having been in the military, but I was under the impression the military is wanting good smart kids these days. I've read and been told you have to have good grades and not have gotten in trouble with the police to join up. Is that not true?

I'm not talking about coming from a well off family. I know you don't have to have money to be smart and get good grades. I'm asking about the quality of the kids signing up. Isn't it like a job application? Where they only want the best candidates?

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And yes Contender, "it's all how they are raised" you are right.
 
I'm glad I served in the regular Army for a time,while many others were running away.

Elitists don't understand service of this type.
 
Kevin said:
In this letter the author writes about the Marines and their background, he or she hints at inner-city youth in trouble at school or with the police and how some of them were "no-goods" before their enlistment.

Never having been in the military, but I was under the impression the military is wanting good smart kids these days. I've read and been told you have to have good grades and not have gotten in trouble with the police to join up. Is that not true?

I'm not talking about coming from a well off family. I know you don't have to have money to be smart and get good grades. I'm asking about the quality of the kids signing up. Isn't it like a job application? Where they only want the best candidates?

Edit:
And yes Contender, "it's all how they are raised" you are right.

Mainly,it depends on what slots their trying to fill,and branch of service . The Army will take most anyone(at least to fill certain slots). Without a draft,they are paying bonuses just to sign-up.
 
As of Jan. 31, there were close to 1.4 million people serving in the U.S. armed forces, according to the latest numbers from the Defense Manpower Data Center, a body of the Department of Defense. That means that 0.4 percent of the American population is active military personnel.

Kevin,
This is the new Military
Each year, about four million Americans reach the age of 18. Currently, the American military needs fewer than 200,000 of them to volunteer for active duty or the reserves to maintain its numbers. With that pool, the military can insist on a high school education for enlisted personnel, and a college degree for officers. Avoided are the medically unfit, those with serious criminal records, and those who would chafe under the discipline required.

Some might say that all who do so are coerced by their poverty to be in the military, making the military a home for black people and others who are economically disadvantaged. African-Americans are indeed over-represented in the American military when compared to their percentage of the general population, but not of the prime relevant age group (18-24).

The military is an attractive employer, given its pay structure and post-career benefits. But minorities are over-represented in the non-combat occupations (medical services, transportation, administration, etc.); combat arms are predominantly white, attracting youths who see themselves as spending some post-high school time in an adventure-land with guns and as having no intention of making the military a career.


The volunteer military is actually better educated and less poor than the draft military, because it is smaller and more selective than the draft military. One third of American youth, heavily minority, do not complete high school, and thus make themselves largely ineligible for the military even if they wish to serve.
http://www.defenseone.com/ideas/2015/05/what-americans-dont-understand-about-their-own-military/112042/
 
Things have changed "some" since I enlisted. The draft was to fill mainly Army and some Marine slots. Some enlisted instead of waiting to be drafted or went into the AF or Navy upon receiving a draft notice.

Even back then,in the Army,there were all kinds:good,bad,ugly,smart,dull. You could always find pals and easily avoid ones you did not like.

I think that as a nation becomes prosperous,patriotism and related values tend to decline.
 
This post really hit home for me today as I just received my first letter from my 22 year old daughter who is now in her fourth week of basic training in the Navy.
In my opinion the author of the article is a candy azzed cupcake that still doesn't get it. He is proud that his son has an ex-gang member friend and he can now look a waitress and a car mechanic in the eye. What he should be proud of is that his son joined the Marines out of a sense of duty. He is concerned that the defense of our country is more in the hands of "poor" people than the wealthy and well educated. With the exception of WWII, our military has always had a greater number of lesser educated. The fact is that the military has much to offer recruits from all walks of life. For some it's a call of duty to serve ones country, for others it's a way to better their life prospects. Both are excellent reasons.
The military and the corporate world both need more workers than they need managers. Nothing new there.
 
My Dad was a 20 Year Navy man; A CPO and AEIC qualified.
He went to one year of college, ran out of money (1930 something) and enlisted.
At the end of 4 years times were STILL hard and jobs hard to find, so he Re-Upped.
At the end of THAT 4 years, we were into WW2 and he couldn't get out.
Then by the end of the war, he had so much time in, that he opted to go for the 20.
I was born in a Navy Hospital and grew up on Navy bases.

In the Army, you had dirt in which to dig a hole.
US ARMY Proudly 1966-1969
I met many that were Intelligent, had some college back ground and enlisted because they felt they OWED an allegiance to the country to help keep it safe; a brother in law that went in after getting his degree and spent 20 years retiring as a Major.
 
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