Bullet wear isn't what wears out most guns, it's the hot powder gasses. That's why high power, high intensity rifle cartridges (like the .220 Swift, 6 mm Weatherby, and similar) can loose their accuracy in as little as 1000 rounds.
In handguns, full power .357 mag loads with 125 gr. bullets are hard on guns, not because of the bullet weight or construction, but because of the large volume of hot powder gas.
If you shoot enough of any type bullet, lead or jacketed, but keep the pressures mild, you will go broke long before the barrel wears out.