I'm asking for advice not asinine wise cracks.
You got a lot of advice. I read every post and didn't see any "asinine" wise cracks. Small, short barreled semi-autos need stiffer springs than full sized guns to function. This makes them difficult for some folks to rack. If your wife isn't up to the task she either needs to work out, utilize one of the special techniques suggested, or move on to another platform.