sc1911cwp
Single-Sixer
There is a difference between a House and a Home. One is a thing, the other something you really build.
was it hard to walk away from your home?
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Homes I owned and lived in are at number 4. Homes I owned as vacation homes only 2. I had spent time fixing and upkeeping all of them. Raised 2 sons in 3 of them.
All that said each has fond memories, but my view is my life is like a book. When I finished high school, college, worked many temporary jobs, married, divorced, married again. Started a career, transferred to different assignments, retired, started another job. Moved, sold and bought homes as rentals or to live in are all chapters in that book.
When I moved because I wanted to, I never looked back. When I moved because I had to, it was a little emotional.
Some things in our lives, we cannot change be it good or bad. I think when those events happen it's best to not dwell on what we cannot change and literally move on with our life. My last move was a 400mile one way drive and I moved everything myself. Moving from one house to another is a lot of work. Unpacking this last time took weeks longer than I figured.
All that said each has fond memories, but my view is my life is like a book. When I finished high school, college, worked many temporary jobs, married, divorced, married again. Started a career, transferred to different assignments, retired, started another job. Moved, sold and bought homes as rentals or to live in are all chapters in that book.
When I moved because I wanted to, I never looked back. When I moved because I had to, it was a little emotional.
Some things in our lives, we cannot change be it good or bad. I think when those events happen it's best to not dwell on what we cannot change and literally move on with our life. My last move was a 400mile one way drive and I moved everything myself. Moving from one house to another is a lot of work. Unpacking this last time took weeks longer than I figured.
Bob, I've downsized the last two homes I've moved to. Now this house is the longest I've ever lived in the same place in my life. That means I STILL have "stuff" in boxed, out in the barn, I've not unboxed since two houses ago. That stuff may as well have been thrown in a dumpster fire 20 years ago for all it is worth NOW after years out in a barn.
Sell it while it is worth something. Sell it, don't move it. Move to something, somewhere YOU WANT TO DO or live. Your trap club comes to mind. Don't over build, build what you want. When you get the "I want mores" buy the land next to you. Resolve never to buy land again that is not on one of your current borders.
Keep the guns.
transplant
Bearcat
except for the foundation and framing and plumbing, I built our family's home. Cleared 1 1/2 acres of woods for the house. HAD PRIDE in what I built but was never sad about moving until we drove out of the driveway for the last time at night.. Took videos of the cleared out house for the kids. They weren't living there anymore but didn't want us to sell it. In a one story ranch half the size now. A lot less stairs to deal with as we age! Now my wife wants to move cause we're too close to a secondary main road in town, sheesh!
bobski
Hunter
i remember george carlins bit on stuff. and how empty drawers and areas need to have stuff.
he had a point.
lol.
everything about our past lives is of no interest to anyone anymore in the current world.
guns, houses, stuff you name it.
heck i liked the scene in top gun maverick where they stole the F14, and the backseater said...what the heck is all this antique crap!!. (the awg9 phoenix sys?) wow. i worked on that cutting edge technology!
and when mav' said look for the radio breaker....where the backseater asked..mav said, its one of those 300 behind you.
lol.
i REMEMBER those breakers!
just like i remember every letter, present, toy, pen, pencil, on our attic.
its not fair to the new generation to have to know what it all is. i get it. but the transition to old age just isnt fun.
its like you have to bury your stuff before they bury you.
i can remember cleaning out homes of my relatives in the 60s.
heck, homes then had stuff from 1800's. and even then my parents were saying get rid of it. nobody wanted victorian stuff in frank lloyd wright style homes with 50-60's decor.
my uncle had a decade old pieced arrow in his garage. no one wanted it and i was only 10. if only i had a tow truck!
seems every generation goes thru the last generations stuff.
just hard for me to sell or toss grandmas hand knitting of headrests, table tops and table covers. she was good at it. sad to see the mice got some of it. oh well.
he had a point.
lol.
everything about our past lives is of no interest to anyone anymore in the current world.
guns, houses, stuff you name it.
heck i liked the scene in top gun maverick where they stole the F14, and the backseater said...what the heck is all this antique crap!!. (the awg9 phoenix sys?) wow. i worked on that cutting edge technology!
and when mav' said look for the radio breaker....where the backseater asked..mav said, its one of those 300 behind you.
lol.
i REMEMBER those breakers!
just like i remember every letter, present, toy, pen, pencil, on our attic.
its not fair to the new generation to have to know what it all is. i get it. but the transition to old age just isnt fun.
its like you have to bury your stuff before they bury you.
i can remember cleaning out homes of my relatives in the 60s.
heck, homes then had stuff from 1800's. and even then my parents were saying get rid of it. nobody wanted victorian stuff in frank lloyd wright style homes with 50-60's decor.
my uncle had a decade old pieced arrow in his garage. no one wanted it and i was only 10. if only i had a tow truck!
seems every generation goes thru the last generations stuff.
just hard for me to sell or toss grandmas hand knitting of headrests, table tops and table covers. she was good at it. sad to see the mice got some of it. oh well.
My children learned with guns from their Great Grandparents as well as tools. I spent my career using tools made by my Great Grandfather and hopefully my grands will as well. We need to be curators of our Families stuff and Keep it significant. When it looses significance so do we.
We all downsize to a pine box sooner or later.
Give your stuff away to people that want it and will cherish it while you are still vertical.
Knowing it will be loved takes the sting out of parting with it. And, you'll be doing your kids a big favor!
Keep the guns though. 😁
Give your stuff away to people that want it and will cherish it while you are still vertical.
Knowing it will be loved takes the sting out of parting with it. And, you'll be doing your kids a big favor!
Keep the guns though. 😁
What I think you are saying is, you remember what all the old stuff is, but the new generation doesn’t. Is that right?
But times do change? How many times have you posted a picture of some antique asking what it is? Most of that stuff I have no idea at all.
What I’m trying to point out is things change too. I bet if I were transported back in time to my grandparents kitchen, I couldn’t figure out how to cook anything. I wouldn’t know how to turn on the stove or use their toaster or probably even figure out their refrigerator.
Things do change. My wife just bought a blender that will make piping hot soup. It’s controlled with her phone via Bluetooth. I’m sure my grandparents couldn’t figure that out.
I'm with them. Technology is the bane of mankind, IMO.What I think you are saying is, you remember what all the old stuff is, but the new generation doesn’t. Is that right?
But times do change? How many times have you posted a picture of some antique asking what it is? Most of that stuff I have no idea at all.
What I’m trying to point out is things change too. I bet if I were transported back in time to my grandparents kitchen, I couldn’t figure out how to cook anything. I wouldn’t know how to turn on the stove or use their toaster or probably even figure out their refrigerator.
Things do change. My wife just bought a blender that will make piping hot soup. It’s controlled with her phone via Bluetooth. I’m sure my grandparents couldn’t figure that out.
redhawker
Buckeye
We bought our home with the intention that they'd carry us out feet first to the mortuary in the end. Now, thanks to those democrat (multiple expletives 'cause I don't want to get banned) in charge in this now (multiple expletives) state our only son and his family, our only grandchildren, now live 2400 miles away from us. We plan to join them this summer. It will be hard to turn over the keys only because of the original intent when we bought the house, the fact that our son was raised in this house, and because we spent a lot of time and money fixing things and remodeling to make it our forever home. The easy part will be, once we turn around from that last look, fleeing this screwed-up state as fast as we can get our butts over the state line.
Bob Wright
Hawkeye
I guess I am very lucky; My Home is in Glory and my house is in Florida, so no I will never miss it.
I also have a mansion prepared for me in Heaven. But until then............
Bob Wright
Bear Paw Jack
Hawkeye
Over September and October we got rid of what we could, and packed up the rest and moved almost 3000 miles. In our new home, they each get smaller. This one’s a little over 1400 sf. A lot of stuff went into the garage and this spring I’ll have to unpack that stuff. Ammo boxes get heavy.
I had thought our last house would have been the last house. Apparently not. I’m expecting to die in this one, whatever it takes to not have to move again. We paid people to pack us up, which was easier than us doing it, but it didn’t make moving back in much easier. Not to mention how expensive it was. But we are finally back near family, and that’s what’s important.
I had thought our last house would have been the last house. Apparently not. I’m expecting to die in this one, whatever it takes to not have to move again. We paid people to pack us up, which was easier than us doing it, but it didn’t make moving back in much easier. Not to mention how expensive it was. But we are finally back near family, and that’s what’s important.
sheepdawg
Single-Sixer
After 24 years it really wasn't tough. Sold 6 rifles I never shot, furniture I looked at as a kid, visited Dixie and Angel's graves one last time and moved 450 miles east to the hills of North Georgia. I moved from Memphis and the gunfire had become an everyday thing. I have. great neighbors, an acre on top of a hill and various wild critters to amuse me.
Boxhead
Blackhawk
Fourteen moves in thirty years, many international. Now happily retired and settled between north Idaho (bought in 2005) and the Texas Hill Country (bought in 2009).
tulsamal
Blackhawk
The wife retires from the corporate world in one year and three months. We’ve been traveling back and forth to Guanajuato and San Miguel de Allende in Mexico and Cuenca in Ecuador… trying to pick between them. I absolutely love Cuenca but she likes being able to drive down to Mexico.
Anyway, we moved to our rural NE Oklahoma 1947 farm house and 90 acres back in 1999. Both our children went from infancy to adulthood here. But it does feel like it is time for our Third Act… so many houses out here in the country have very senior citizens in them… no real visitors, the flicker of TV at night… until the very end when they end up in the local nursing home. All their property and personal stuff up for auction. I don’t really want to do that.
Whether it is Mexico or Ecuador… no guns. So I plan to pass out any family heirlooms I can… sell the rest. Many of them I saw as long term investments anyway. I would rather spend the money myself.
The wife says we will both stand at the gate, look back at the house, and cry the last time we leave. I’m sure that’s true.
Anyway, we moved to our rural NE Oklahoma 1947 farm house and 90 acres back in 1999. Both our children went from infancy to adulthood here. But it does feel like it is time for our Third Act… so many houses out here in the country have very senior citizens in them… no real visitors, the flicker of TV at night… until the very end when they end up in the local nursing home. All their property and personal stuff up for auction. I don’t really want to do that.
Whether it is Mexico or Ecuador… no guns. So I plan to pass out any family heirlooms I can… sell the rest. Many of them I saw as long term investments anyway. I would rather spend the money myself.
The wife says we will both stand at the gate, look back at the house, and cry the last time we leave. I’m sure that’s true.
Ka6otm
Blackhawk
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I won't be doing that. I'll stay at the house and hire people to come and help me out/take care of me.
