My Dad was not my "Buddy", he was my Dad

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GypsmJim

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Y'all that had good relationships with your dads and grew up in a BOTH parent home are truly blessed!
That's a rare occasion these days.
And now we have mass shootings, drug problems and a divided nation. Could there be a correlation?
 

dannyd

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As a kid from parents of the so called Greatest Generation, I would not quite call them that.

Now their Parents who were born between 1880 and 1899, I would definitely call them the truly greatest generation.

They had two depressions 1913 and 1929, Two World Wars, One they were in and one they were in charge, many pandemics and they buried their brother's in the first war and their sons in the second. And they had to register for the draft twice, 1917 and 1942 for anyone born after 1878.

My wife and I are two weeks different in age, but her parents were over ten years younger than mine. She as all the great stories of growing up in a new community in St. Louis build after the war and all the fun she had, even movies showing it.

The only thing our childhoods had in common was we were on the planet earth at the same time.

It's all the luck of the draw and sometimes you get the short end of it. ;)
 

mexicanjoe

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Dad died when I was 11, and he tried to teach me as much as he could knowing his time was short. He instilled a work ethic that I have passed down to my kids and hopefully it will continue. My dad wouldn't give me10 cents for candy but would give me a quarter for a comic book. If wanted to come in early and read he was all for it. He said an education is sometime that cannot be taken from you, and he was right!
 

jav

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My dad was not the hands on kind of guy . I learned a lot how not to be from him we weren't close at all . Good note my son and I are best friends it's a good feeling
 
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My dad taught me the important things; Christian values, morals, a strong work ethic, both by word and example. Other things I had to learn on my own - dad wasn't a handyman by any stretch. I wanted to know how to do mechanical work, so he got me a set of tools for my 15th birthday, most of which I still have, and the box. He helped me buy an old Ford truck when I was 17 and financed me rebuilding the engine myself. He didn't know how to do those things, but always supported me wanting to learn.
 
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I grew up in a church going family. I early on learned 'work ethic'. Set goals and work toward them. I learned that you may never actually achieve some goals, but never quit trying. I learned so much from my dad that I cannot tell it all. In many ways he taught me how not to do things as well as how TO do things. My wife still calls me "MacGyver".
 

Threespears

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The last photo of my DAD and I an hour before he took his last breath on this earth.
until we meet again.
I Love You Dad
 

gunman42782

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My Dad worked 3 jobs when I was a kid. Full time welder. Part time worked on washers and dryers. And on the weekends went and set up at the flea market. I started going with him to the flea market when I was 7 or 8 years old until I graduated high school. The highlight of the year was when we would go to Friendship, IN. He taught me so many things, but like others said, not in so many words. He was my buddy in a way, but he was my Dad first. The only thing we ever argued about was politics! My Dad was an old school Democrat (union man) and he just couldn't see where the Democrat party was headed. I was in high school when Reagan was President and I absolutely loved the guy. Me and Dad would argue about it until he would get POed and just tell me to drop the subject. I knew when he said that, I better indeed drop the subject! LOL . My Dad passed away in his recliner at home watching TV. My Mom passed about a year later, but not so peacefully. I miss them both something terrible.
 
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For me its ironic.

When he was alive I would visit dad weekly - take him grocery shopping, to the barber, dentist, etc. But when we sat together in his house, we talked very little...I could think of nothing to say.

These days, I have page after page of questions I wish I'd asked him, mostly about his life as he grew up. I kick myself for being so self-centered while he was alive.
 

magpouch

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My mom and dad divorced before I was born. I've never met the man but have no ill will toward him. Growing up I never realized what I was missing, so it never bothered me a bit. However, when I had my boys I realized how much I missed out, having neither good nor bad example to learn from. I just hope I did good for them.
 

Montana Cowboy

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My youngest son and I often butted heads when he was still living at home, one day asked me "Dad why can't you just be one of the guy's", my answer was "Because I'm Dad, not one of the guy's" Years later when he had two kids of his own he gave me the nicest compliment I have ever received, " Dad I want you to know everything I ever hated about you when I was growing up I've become".

When my wife asked me what I would like for Father's Day last year my answer was If I could spend the day with my dad and tell him how much I love him and what a great Dad he was.
 
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