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I have lost two of my friends and fellow Army buddies in the last two weeks. One was a bowling buddy as well as a Avionics Specialist in one of our service support units. Then today I get word that a good friend and former First Sergeant of mine, Ed, had passed away. He and I HAD some times together! Had two friends and former service buddies leave us last year. Four in the last year + a bit. Starting to get scary. :shock: :shock:
 
Fox Mike,

Man, I'm so sorry. I understand what it's like to grieve for those we love as friends.

Day before yesterday, I found out a friend had died. I didn't know he was even ill. Some friend I am...

I feel terrible that I didn't get to attend his funeral.
 
The older you get the more and faster it happens. I don't have hardly any old close friends anymore.
 
My condolences... I know what you're going through.

I and most of my friends (and their wives) are on the high side of 70..... 4 funerals since last November.
 
Well, this may sound dreadfully insensitive, but really isn't, we older ones will find ourselves there...soon and who knows...? Maybe it's great...
 
All my friends went to college, I went to work. Real work, not kids stuff. 4 years later when they came home from college, I might as well have been 50 years old. We had nothing in common anymore.

As a result all my friends now are older than I am by 10+ years. And they've been passing at an alarming rate. It's not easy to see them go.

When I started working, the old timers had been in ww2, now the Vietnam vets are retired and some are dieing too young. I'm not too far from being the old guy.
 
I can relate Frank. My best friend in High School, passed the same year I moved to Idaho. He was one month younger than me. Have lost several friends I've worked with. Cancer seems to be the popular disease the last few years. A couple of others have gone in their sleep. That would be my preference.
 
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None of us are getting out of this alive.................. :roll:

I thought I was going for my Dirt Nap last Labor Day, but made it through to my 75th B-day (so far).

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One of my saddest moments was when I went to my 50 year Class reunion (2009) and they had a list of all our classmates who had passed away. More than one of my old High School friends were on the list.
 
I'm 80 and not in the best of health but strangely out living many old friends...have lost several this year...Doc said my genetics will be a big factor..Mom lived to be 97...so just "enjoy the ride"...I pointed out that my ride includes COPD, asthma, and only one functioning lung...I have a branch retinal occlusion in my right eye, an artificial knee on the right side and am mostly deaf....said to just call me "lucky"....My Mom said aging's most difficult thing for her is that not only had she lost all or most of her friends but the people that lived in her building were all younger and she had nobody to talk to that knew anything about the "old days"..no point of reference...most of the people in her building were born after Mom became a great grandmother.

It's fun to be friends with younger folks..I enjoy it...but any points of reference are much different as the gap in ages differ more and more. All the talk about stay at home kids after college are so far from my life it's amazing...I was married at 19...first child at 20..2 kids when I graduated from college...hit the job market right away and was a regional manager with a major computer manufacturer when I was 28....my youngest child just turned 60 and he has 2 grand kids.....so I just sort of sit and watch and try to understand what is going on much of the time.
 
When my Grandmother was still with us I would help her set up her class reunions (class of 1944) and play hostess to her classmates. In return I was treated to the friendship of some of the best people this country ever produced. Out of the 35 that started some 20 years ago only two are left. I grieved as much as my Grams did over them. As I helped Dad and my stepmother prepare for their 40th class reunion I can't help but wonder how many will be lost in the short span of years.
 
Fox Mike said:
I have lost two of my friends and fellow Army buddies in the last two weeks. One was a bowling buddy as well as a Avionics Specialist in one of our service support units. Then today I get word that a good friend and former First Sergeant of mine, Ed, had passed away. He and I HAD some times together! Had two friends and former service buddies leave us last year. Four in the last year + a bit. Starting to get scary. :shock: :shock:
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Sad but most of the guys you knew are probably gone. I only saw one guy from the Army in 72 and 73. I got out in 71...(3 yrs).
 
Yes, people are dropping like flies! They are dying to have someone send them flowers? I have a friend that is a nurse in her 50's dying of brain cancer. Remember guys, you will rust out before you wear out! Even light use beats no use. Condolences to those who have lost friends and family.
gramps
 
A few years ago my sister died of brain cancer, though it started out as lung cancer.

Upon the finding of the original diagnosis of lung cancer she resisted treatment, (thinking it was a valiant, but hopeless pursuit) but the docs convinced her to go the anti-cancer medication this approach and that which killed her kidneys. She then had to be dialyzed every third day or so for her few remaining years...of torture. This was worse than the surgery and the anti-cancer drug treatment. She finally threw in the towel of being dialyzed, said 'f' it and succumbed 2 days later.

When (as I expect) I'm diagnosed with terminal cancer (I've already had it, a melanoma removed some 35 years ago) I WILL resist all treatment.

Why?

I've seen a number of loved ones from family to friends treated for cancer. None survived for much longer than had nature taken it's course, but died horribly from treatment, either from surgery, anti-cancer drugs or radiation or all. Not for me. Just let me die with dignity.

I honestly believe cancer patients are gouged for all that can be taken from them.

Oh, doctor, you say I have terminal cancer?

Ok, I'll die without your help...but some palliatives would be nice ...or a bullet.
Either will do...
 
Conservative said:
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I've seen a number of loved ones from family to friends treated for cancer. None survived for much longer than had nature taken it's course, but died horribly from treatment, either from surgery, anti-cancer drugs or radiation or all. Not for me. Just let me die with dignity. .........
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+1

My Dad, on his deathbed after 3 years of chemo and several surgeries, said that if he had it to do over again, he probably would have lived nearly as long had he done nothing...... and his last years wouldn't have been constant misery.
 
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