My friend,, you are new here, so I will say "Welcome!"
However, to open a post highly critizing something,, isn't the best way to approach things. First,, I used to think the Bisleys weren't very good or for me,, based upon their looks alone. Then I finally shot one & found out how wrong I was. I'd made a judgement without proper info.
Now, I'm much older, and wiser. I have also become an instructor since those blissful ignorant days.
Lets discuss your problem. Recoil is hurting your hand. First, not every grip fits every hand. Some folks find the Bisley is wonderful, & others find it's not as comfortable as a XR3-RED. Some folks find that the Super Blackhawk grip beats thier knuckles,, while others think the original XR-3 grip frame is punishing.
It all comes down to a couple of things.
First,, it has to fit YOUR hand. What works for youi may not be for anyone else.
Next,, it could be your shooting style. Now, I don't know you, but if you've never had proper instruction on how to shoot a SA firearm,, then it's possible you MIGHT be doing it wrong. How you grip a firearm,, and how you react to the recoil all affects how well it works. You mentioned using pachmyers on a Blackhawk,, and most of us do not use those types of grips as they do not allow the firearm to recoil upward as their design is supposed to allow them to do. Many folks, (And many years ago, myself included,) try & "fight" the recoil & hold it down. Taming it with rubber grips. It just doesn't work on a SA frame as well as it does on other types of guns. The inertia of recoil reacts differently in a SA than any other gun.
So,, maybe you should try getting some proper instruction, to see if that's the problem.
Look around this forum, as I recently described to another poster the proper gripping methods for shooting a SA.