I whole-heartily agree with the OP. I've been around here quite a while. I'm also a member of a few other Forums. But many forums I've seen discussed here apparently are not worth my time because of what others have mentioned about how moderators or owners treat their guests. I'm not saying some of them deserve what they get,, but overall,, this place, (as a couple of others,) are quite nice & what I consider true social media.
When FlatGate was alive & owned this place,, he casually & quietly set the tone & some standards. Many of the regular members helped him by often making a post to try & get a member to step back a bit & re-think their attitude or posts. Most often,, that worked. But heavy handed actions weren't often necessary,, but when done,, were usually warranted.
By being courteous, respectful, and not hiding behind a keyboard is a quality many here have. The types that want to stir up stuff, or act like trolls etc aren't allowed to be that way too easily.
But the mods here,, they do a great job,, and I know that it's a volunteer position. For that,, I truly appreciate & respect those folks greatly!